Overcoming Fear

As the world experiences the spread of the coronavirus (covid-19) and its resultant impact on travel, social interaction and our basic needs of safety, health and provisions, it’s easy to see why the world is going into fear. How do we overcome fear at a time of significant world changes and maintain hope during a pandemic? We also know that 2020 offers tremendous potential. How can you open up to that potential and activate your power within?

Understanding Fear

Fear is our most basic emotion triggered by the reptilian brain and it’s instinctive fight or flight reaction. A lot of the fear we feel are collective fears fuelled by the media. Fear is not triggered by what’s actually happening, but by our perception of what’s happening and the media can colour this in dramatically.

Fear is contagious

Emotions are contagious and tend to rub off. Your unconscious mind; your emotional mind is very sensitive and picks up very easily on the subtleties of feelings of the people around you. In fact, it doesn’t really distinguish between your feelings and mine. It all becomes intertwined and connected as one, because at the level of the unconscious mind, we are one. So we can be dragged down or uplifted. Equally, we can have a dulling or uplifting effect on others. Being aware of this gives us choices.

Fear is a low level of consciousness

We have all walked into a room and sensed the vibes. You can feel the tension or the lightness. Emotions have vibrations. Some, like stress and fear, are dense and low in vibration. Others, like love and joy, are light and high in vibrations. Higher vibrations are naturally more uplifting and expansive.

When you dwell in fear, you dwell in the lowest state of consciousness. If you dwell in lower emotions too long, you can experience apathy and your energy becomes more constricted and solid. You can’t make decisions because you resist change. You want things to stay the same. You are motivated by safety and security. Stress and fear can cause dis-ease.

Higher up in positive emotions of willingness, hope, gratitude and enthusiasm, there’s more movement and flow in your energy. You become more expansive and you have more space to create. You are driven by meaning and purpose. You feel energised, healthy and inspired and can serve as an inspiration to others. You come into your own power, and abundance is a natural outflow.

Fear is a natural human experience

It is natural and human to experience the whole range of emotions. One day you may feel optimistic and positive, and then comes a day when you feel anxious for no apparent reason. Be willing to experience the whole range of human emotions. Don’t resist lower emotions of anger, upset or fear. What you resist persists. Just avoid dwelling in the lower emotions. Flow through the experience with awareness and intention to move back up into positive emotions. Releasing resistance and taking responsibility, begins to tip us into positive emotions. Practicing acceptance, gratitude and forgiveness helps us to transcend fear and feel positive emotions of love, joy and peace again. 

Master your Mind to Overcome Fear

ACCEPTANCE

Change is inevitable and acceptance brings peace. We create our own suffering by holding onto things or wanting things to be different from what they are. Acceptance doesn’t mean liking or giving up or being satisfied, it just means non-resistance and accepting what is right now as a starting point. Acceptance is a precondition for healing.

OBSERVATION

Rather than being drawn into the fear, remain the detached observer. Look at what’s happening in the world from a higher perspective. What we are going through may be challenging, yet there is much to learn from it. Ultimately every experience is for our growth and evolution.

Gratitude

Practicing gratitude creates a positive mental shift every time. Gratitude activates neurotransmitters Serotonin and Dopamine that are naturally uplifting. Take an attitude of gratitude into a mindfulness meditative practice. Reflect on everything that is going well in your life and all you have to be grateful for.

Thought Awareness

You always have a choice. Do you feed the fearful inner lizard of the reptilian brain or do you trust the inner wizard of the higher mind? Faith and trust transcends the lizard voice. 
Certain modes of thinking can feed the lizard voice:
‘Should’ and ‘must’ type thoughts as well as ‘why don’t they…’ place high expectations on ourselves or others and are frustration drivers.
‘Always’ and ‘never’ type thinking pushes us into the extreme (e.g. “I am always helping you and you never help me”) and are anger drivers.
Catastrophising (‘what if’ type thoughts or beliefs that something is far worse than it actually is) creates anxiety.
‘All or nothing’ or ‘black and white’ or ‘right or wrong’ or ‘nobody’ and ‘everybody’ type thoughts – absolutes rather than shades of grey – (e.g. nobody cares) are depression drivers.

The lizard voice is disempowering and perpetuates the victim state. Bring the nature of your thoughts into your awareness. Are they helpful or harmful? Let your thoughts be that of the inner wizard – aware, wise, kind, compassionate and reassuring to yourself and others. All consciousness is connected. Therefore when you change fear into love, you uplift the whole. 

Look after your Nervous System

Give the nervous system a break from all the continuous stimulation. Spend time in stillness. Restore the balance by giving yourself time to rest and recuperate. Create calm by slowing your pace and be present in the moment. Calm doesn’t come from some change in the external world. It has to be cultivated from within. When you do, you can engage your nervous system for what it was intended – creativity. Your nervous system is designed to give you what you focus on. Embrace your creative energy by channelling it constructively and positively into enjoyable projects. Align yourself with your destiny and set positive intentions that drive and fulfil your vision.

Step into your Power

More than ever before, the world needs you to act from within your true power; your gifted-ness; your greatness. The power and potential for greatness is in all of us. When you tap into your true power, you tap into something that is you and at the same time greater than you. This universal force wants to flow through you. When you release the constricted power of the little ego self, you open up to a vast expansive power, that of your greater true self. Now is the time to step into your true higher power for a higher purpose.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us, are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Own your Power

You can’t use your power until you’ve owned it. Recognise that this power is in you anyway. The only thing that obscures it are our own fears and limiting beliefs – fears and limiting beliefs that keep you in your ordinariness, rather than your greatness. Whatever you think you are, you are always more than that. You have infinite potential and untapped resources already inside you. Release any fears and doubts about who you are and what you are capable of. Every time you release a limiting belief (sometimes we do it by facing the fear and doing it anyway) life responds to you in magical ways and whole new dimensions of possibilities open up to you.

“To live fearlessly is to actively practice peace and non-violence, even if it seems like we’re threatened” – Alberto Villoldo

What do I do with this Power?

Create – be the all powerful creator that you are.
Heal – your life, your family and the world.
Bring change – be the change agent ushering in a peaceful, loving world.
Take action – act with certainty and commitment to your chosen path.
Inspire others effortlessly – through just being who you are and doing what you do.
Step into your greater purpose powerfully – be the master, the creator, the lightworker and change agent the world needs right now. That’s what you came to do. These may be challenging times, but it is the time we incarnated for and you have everything that it takes already inside you.

What else can you do to release fear?

Regular relaxation
Breathing exercises – a deeper in-breath and a longer out-breath
Practice mindfulness
Be present in the moment – get your thoughts out of the future and the past
Positive self-talking
Have some positive affirmations that you repeat to yourself, such as “I know I can do it” and “everything will work out well”
Practice gratitude
Slow down your pace
Regular nurturing exercise such as yoga, pilates, tai chi, swimming, walking and cycling.

Resources:

Transformational Therapies

It’s always best to get to the root cause and resolve issues for good. Time Line Therapy™ is the most powerful way to heal and release all negative emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, depression and anxiety. We can also let go of self-doubt and limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential, and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

Further Resources

The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life
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Cosmic Overview and Current Energies
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Run Your Mind Masterfully

– How to Counteract Anxiety

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a feeling of apprehension or fear, sometimes just running below the surface, other times accompanied by feelings of impending doom. The source of this uneasiness is not always known or recognised, which can further add to the distress you feel.

Anxiety is learnt behaviour that started at some point – often long ago or as a result of some traumatic or stressful event. Anxiety relates to future events, although it is fuelled by past fears and triggered by associated memories and thought patterns. We create anxiety by anticipating a future event in a negative way; worrying about what may go wrong instead of focusing on the positives we want out if it.

Cultivate Positive Self-belief

Stress and anxiety are actually caused by our perceptions of external events, not by the events themselves. If you still have doubts about yourself, your ability to deal with things and concerns about what people may be thinking, then these worrying thoughts could develop into anxious thoughts.

The cause of stressful anxious thoughts run deeper still. The real reason has to do with awareness. When your awareness remains on the surface of the 3-dimensional everyday busy life, the mind stays occupied with restless thoughts. An untrained mind runs a stream of senseless thoughts serving no particular purpose. There is so much more to your life than the 3-dimensional narrow focus. That’s only the tip of the iceberg of who you are and what you are capable of.

The mind is fertile ground. Every thought is creation.
There are no limits. Everything is possible.

Look after your Nervous System 

Give the nervous system a break from all the continuous stimulation. Spend time on your own, in nature and in stillness. Restore the balance by giving yourself time to rest and recuperate. Enjoy a creative activity such as gardening, cooking or music. Create calm by slowing your pace and be present in the moment. Calm doesn’t come from some change in the external world. It has to be cultivated from within. When you do, you can engage your nervous system for what it was intended – creativity. Your nervous system is designed to bring about what you think about. Embrace your creative energy by channeling it constructively and positively into enjoyable projects. Align yourself with your destiny and set big intentions that drive and fulfil the vision of your more expansive multi-dimensional self.

In Power up your Brain, the Neuroscience of Enlightenment by D. Perlmutter and A. Villoldo (2011), the evolution of the human brain is described from the old reptilian brain (fight and flight) to the limbic brain (emotions), the neo-cortex (speech, writing and thinking) to the prefrontal cortex (the higher mind of creativity and initiative). Even though the old brain is still there, reacting with fear, greed, conflict and intolerance; human society is standing on the brink of an extraordinary leap in consciousness, they say. We are evolving in wisdom and higher awareness of connectivity, community, well-being, love, joy and enlightenment. 

Rewire Your Brain

Due to our past experiences, the mind created neural pathways that keep triggering the same emotional reactions and limiting beliefs. In each new situation we have a choice whether to mull over anxious thoughts and reinforce the old reactive neural pathway, or to open up to new opportunities and new approaches, developing new positive emotions and beliefs. When we focus on new possibilities, we create new neural pathways and rewire the brain. All negative emotions (anger, upset, hurt, guilt) are fear-based. All positive emotions (joy, peace, compassion, enthusiasm) are love-based. It’s all about which thoughts we feed – love or fear. 

There is a story of an old Cherokee teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a fight between two wolves. One is evil – he reacts with anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego,” he continued “The other is good – he experiences joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a while and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.” 

So, with focused attention, you can change your thoughts and create new neural pathways. This investment changes your activities and your behaviour to bring about a positive change in your life. 

Synergy of Minds 

Because your Consciousness Thinking Mind is only the tip of the iceberg, limited and slow and the subtle minds below the surface are so infinite and expansive, it’s easy to wonder if the Consciousness Mind, with it senseless stream of busy thoughts, serves any purpose. Yet, the Consciousness Mind starts the creation process and brings the essential functions of choice, decision, focus and direction to the process. Every aspect of the brain and mind serves an important purpose. It’s best that the mind works in synergy. Synergy means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Synergy of whole brain function can be achieved through relaxation, creativity, imagination and meditation. A calm mind is more expansive and enables clear perception. We have a choice, to feed the wolf of chaos, confusion, negativity, doubts and conflict, or the wolf of inner peace, love, joy, creativity and the gifts of your higher mind. 

Focus Your Thoughts Towards What You Want

This is the key antidote to anxiety – focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Your nervous system is designed to give you what you focus on. Everything starts with a thought, an idea that we energise through focus. It’s a conscious choice what you focus your mind on. What you focus on, you energise, expand, make more of. Focused thought expands the probability; the likeliness of the outcome. Your mind is immensely creative, and the possibilities are infinite.

An untrained, fearful mind creates ‘what if’ type of thoughts that energise exactly what we don’t want and fear might happen. If you focus on what can go wrong, you create more fear. We seem to be good at telling ourselves what we don’t want to happen. That leaves the Unconscious Mind confused about what you do want. Goals and intentions give the Unconscious Mind a positive focus and direct the mind towards what you do want. Take note of what you don’t want and focus on what you do. As example, ‘I don’t want to be late’, is focusing on what you don’t want. This creates tension in the nervous system. What do you want? ‘I want to get there in time for a cup of tea before we start the meeting’. This feels comforting and enabling in the nervous system. Equally, ‘I don’t want to be ill’. What do you want? ‘I want to be healthy and well’. Better still, ‘I am healthy and well’. Mental discipline turns the thoughts focused towards what you want. Your mind picks up on every thought, the suggestions (health or illness) hidden in your thoughts and the emotional vibration underlying it (fear of love). Your Unconscious Mind – your emotional mind – is highly suggestive, so give it specific, clear and positive thought direction.

Thought Awareness

Certain modes of thinking can drive negative emotional states:
‘Should’ and ‘must’ type thoughts as well as ‘why don’t they…’ place high expectations on ourselves or others and are frustration drivers.
‘Always’ and ‘never’ type thinking pushes us into the extreme (e.g. “I am always helping you and you never help me”) and are anger drivers.
Catastrophising (‘what if’ type thoughts or beliefs that something is, or could be, far worse than it actually is) creates anxiety.
‘All or nothing’ or ‘black and white’ or ‘right or wrong’ or ‘nobody’ and ‘everybody’ type thoughts – absolutes rather than shades of grey – (e.g. nobody cares) are depression drivers.

Sometimes these thoughts are habitual thoughts that perpetuate the dis-empowering victim state. Bring the nature of your thoughts into your awareness. Are they helpful or harmful? Let your thoughts be kind, compassionate and reassuring to yourself as if you are your own best friend. Have faith in your intuitive guidance and trust that everything happens for a reason.

Present Moment Awareness

The present moment is by nature free from stress and anxiousness. When you’re truly engaged in a present moment, you’re more in your senses and the mind is cleared of thoughts. We only create stress and anxiety when our minds are in the future (generating ‘what if’ type thoughts), or in the past (generating ‘if only’ type regrets). When you feel those anxious sensations, bring your thoughts back to the here and now where all is well. Anything else is just a thought.

Express Yourself Freely

Sometimes we withhold expression thinking ‘What will people think?’ Expression exposes your world views, beliefs and perceptions. It is important to express your own truth authentically. Withholding expression can cause emotional and even physical distress. Finding ways of expressing your own uniqueness verbally and creatively, is essential for your health and happiness. Opinions are just opinions, they aren’t truths. Your truth is true for you, and you know it through your inner compass. 

Follow Your Own Radar

People around you can have expectations and expressed opinions about your life, your roles and responsibilities. Only you know what’s right for you and follow your own path is essential for your sense of freedom and well-being. Following your own inner radar, will fill you with the dynamic energy to create your own destiny. This implies cutting through all the expectations, roles and responsibilities. Beyond fear, within each of us, is a space of innate well-being and peace. That’s where you want to dwell and from there you want to flow your creativity in your own unique way. Your inner radar is often feelings-driven. Your feelings are subtle messages, so it’s worth tuning in, listening and following your own inner truth.

Mindfulness

To practice more positive thinking patterns, continuously bring the nature of your thoughts into your awareness. By cultivating mindfulness, you can acknowledge and identify your existing thinking patterns. Thoughts can be habitual. Mindfulness creates a distance between yourself and your thoughts, allowing you to view yourself as separate from them. Incorporate mindfulness into your meditative practice and also into your moment to moment everyday life. Conscious awareness is the catalyst for change and mastery. 

Through Mindfulness you can Reflect on:

Your Perceptions: Our reality is just a perception coloured in by our beliefs, values, memories and experiences. We always perceive subjectively. What am I not seeing?
Your Beliefs: As self-fulfilling prophesies, our beliefs create our realities. Do I believe I can do it?
Your Thoughts: Be mindful of your self-talk. As you think so you create. Are my thoughts helpful to me?
Cause and Effect: Embrace your creative energy. Am I acting or reacting? Am I a victim or a creator? What am I creating?

Make these Empowering Beliefs part of your mindset and your life will change for good.

Cultivate a Compassionate Inner Voice

It is natural to want to continue improving yourself. Do so with compassion to yourself. An inner critical voice won’t make you feel good about yourself and has the opposite effect. Replace the critical voice with a compassionate voice that still wants you to grow, yet nudges you gently in a non-judgmental compassionate way.

Rest and Reset

Ensure you get sufficient downtime to restore your energy. Give yourself permission to say no from time to time. Your time and resources are precious and only you can look after it. There are many health benefits of getting enough sleep. Help yourself  by having an early wind down and switch-off so that you can be restful and in bed by 10pm. The more sleep you get before midnight, the better the mind and the body restores. The Human Growth Hormone is released by the brain into the bloodstream during the first period of sleep, and its release is part of the repair and restoration function of sleep.

Make time for Relaxation 

The more you retrain the mind and body to truly relax, the more you can induce this relaxed state at will and by choice. 

When your mind is bypassing the stress chemicals and sending truly relaxing messages to your body, wonderful things begin to happen. Just as the adrenaline and noradrenaline jump to attention when you stress, other chemicals go to work when you relax causing you to have a feeling of contentment. You can begin to observe your thoughts and not buy into them. You are able to see your world as it is, not for how you feel about it. 

You have a choice. Everything you do is a matter of choice. You choose to be angry, happy or indifferent. You make a conscious choice to take action or not to take action. Relaxing is a good thing because it gives you choice. It puts you back in the driver’s seat. 

Breathing

Nourishing breathing has a profound effect on the nervous system and clear thinking. Low, abdominal or diaphragmatic breathing brings you down into the naturally calm zone of the body. Make this a 1 to 2 ratio breathing, e.g. breathing in for 2 counts and out for 4 counts. A deeper in-breath is energising and a longer out-breath, like a sigh, is calming. All the air cells and all the breathing muscles including the muscles between the ribs are used. When the diaphragm expands and the ribs are pushed out the lungs have room to inflate. Your entire system will feel deeply energised and calmed at the same time. 

Shift Nervous System

Practice Peripheral Vision often. This technique helps you to shift from the sympathetic (stress) to the para-sympathetic nervous system (relax) instantly. It also helps you to expand your awareness and then tap more of your infinite resources. Peripheral Vision can be practiced anywhere and at anytime. It is a great meditation technique and highly effective for putting yourself to sleep at night. Follow the process of Peripheral Vision here and get really good at it, until it becomes second nature.

What Else Can You Do?

Practice Essential Self Care – 7 Practical Self Care Practices.

Read further Anxiety, Stress and Depression – the Modern Day Illness

Meditate daily. Follow these simple mindfulness and other meditations to bring calm to your mind and restore peace.

Heal and Release Emotions of the Past. Time Line Therapy™ is the most powerful way to heal and release all negative emotions and baggage from the past – anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt. Mentally, you can let go of limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential, and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

Deepen into these concepts. Read Lifting the Veils of Illusion, 7 Steps to Spiritual Enlightenment and The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life.

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