Time to Stop and Be – Mindfully

For many, life in the fast lane is becoming increasingly challenging. Workload rising, overtime hours stretching, email inbox brimming, all on top of family and home life demands, we are constantly on the go. Never a moment to yourself, to enjoy an interest, to get out, what still relax! As our lives get more and more out of balance, we feel stressed, drained and tired. The irony is, this state of tension makes us less effective at what we do and obviously takes the joy out of life. We become so focused in our tunnel vision that we lose a broader awareness. This is the small and limiting world of the ego self.

Living in the Present Moment is

The End of the Ego

The world of your ego mind, as real as it may seem, is a small part of who you are. In its illusionary world, the ego compares, competes, forces, struggles and is hardly ever satisfied. Separated from it, by the thinnest of veils, is another altogether magical world of your true, creative, expansive self. We know we’re in our ‘right mind’ when things flow, we feel light, enjoy ourselves and lose ourself in a pleasant experience.

The decision to make the present moment into your friend is the end of the ego – Eckhart Tolle

The End of Stress

Society has generally maxed out on stress and many people now find a slowed, calm and peaceful approach to work and life immensely more valuable and effective. Mindfulness physically increases grey matter in the frontal lobe of the brain used for creative thinking and decreases the part of the brain (amygdala) that triggers fear and stress.

The End of Anxiety

Living in the present moment is a powerful stress-buster. The present moment is naturally free from stress and anxiety. We only create anxiety when we have fearful thoughts about the future (all the ‘What if’ scenarios created by our imagination) and regrets about the past (all the ‘If only’ this or that didn’t happen). We all know through experience that when we lose ourselves in an enjoyable moment like listening to music or doing something creative like painting, time stand still and the mind clears.

Even if the present moment is a challenging one, by being mindful in the moment, you become an observer of your thoughts and reaction rather than buying into it. We soon realise that by not trying to fight against, hide from or change the moment, just acknowledging it, is far less stressful in the long run. Any concern about the future is an illusion as it has not happened yet. Anxiety therefore only exists on the inside. We can let it go by embracing the moment. No negative emotion can be experienced when we are truly in the moment. Herein lies great wisdom.

The End of Time

‘Never enough time’, is just another illusionary thought. Thoughts about the past and the future are only illusionary. All we have is this present moment. Life is truly lived only in the moment. Mindfulness brings a quality of experience that makes time stand still. It stretches and expands time. We end up getting more done in less time. 

Living in the Present Moment is

Truly Spiritual

Frequenting the present moment, means we come home to our true selves. To truly Know Thyself is to transcend the apparent importance of the small ego self and to evolve into the greatness, the expansion, joy and peace of your true magnificent higher self.

Truly Creative

When you are relaxed in the moment, you’re not just in your limited logical mind, you are able to bring your expansive creative right brain to the task at hand. The mind opens up to its unbounded creative potential and the possibilities that you can tap are infinite.

Truly Expansive

Free from contractive, restrictive fears and doubts, you are free to discover the innate power of your spirit. You are ultimately a creator. 

‘We are responsible for what we create. As we expand and learn to act and think with love and wisdom, we’re able to live in service of others and all of life’ Caroline Myss 

Truly Alive 

Mindfulness means you are coming to your senses. This sense experience makes you feel truly alive, brings you out of your head and connects you with your world. Healing takes place in this connection.Your energy, health and youthfulness returns. A sense of lightness and joy of life returns. All of this is possible with the simple practice of dropping into the present moment. 

How do I truly stay in the moment?

Mindfulness is simply the act of being fully aware of what you are doing in any given moment, which in turn clears everything from your mind, helping you to de-stress. Mindfulness is more often practised through breathing exercises aimed at focusing your attention in the moment. Mindfulness can also be practised in the form of mindful walking and mindful eating and the idea is that we take this practice through into every day activities such as cleaning the house.

Studies have shown that taking 10 minutes out in a mindfulness practice, reduces stress and counteracts depression even more effectively than anti-depressants. Mindfulness reduces anxiety, improves concentration, memory, sleep patterns, decision-making, creative thinking and problem-solving.


Anxiety keeps us in the “fight or flight” stress mode, often for prolonged periods of time. Easing the nervous system through relaxation is therefore essential to stop anxiety from triggering. Relaxation practices such as mindfulness and meditation, reduce stress and restore health.


This simple practice of doing nothing but breathing may take discipline at first, but over time it physically reduces the reactive brain (amygdala) and increases the pre-frontal cortex responsible for creating a sense of well-being. Besides, it releases undesired thoughts and restores calm.

Do you want to have a go straight away?

Click through to the Meditations page for a choice of guided meditations: Mindfulness Reflection Meditation and Healing Emotions the Mindful Way.

Mindfulness Retreat

One of the most practical approaches to good health is relaxation. When we get the mind out of stress mode, the body can naturally return to good health. Our Mindfulness Retreat has exactly that purpose. Join us and experience practices that increase awareness of the mind-body link. Treat yourself to a day out of your everyday busyness, a day to retreat, re-set your mind, relax and be mindful with like-minded people in a tranquil environment. You will find it uplifting, healing, relaxing and re-energising.

Book your space now and join us on the One Day Mindfulness Retreat at the Xaverian Spiritual Centre in Preston. We are fortunate again to have Thai Chi Teacher, Tricia Pass taking us through mindful movements, (hopefully outside, weather of course permitting.)

All details are on our Events Calendar

Fascinating further reading

Buddha’s Brain by Rick Hanson

Mindfulness Manifesto 

Signs and Symbolism

Inspiration from the Natural World 

The universe communicates and teaches all the time. Just stop, take time to tune in, listen, notice and heed the signs.

Once, during a time of loss and transformation, I searched for a sign and a dragonfly came. He hovered and flew about for a while, so I could observe it. I noticed how it flies and shimmers iridescently. I realised that the dragonfly has something profound to teach. The other-worldliness of this beautiful creature inspired the cover design of my new book, The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life.

Like the butterfly, the dragonfly is associated with light, transformation, and personal growth. Dragonflies change direction quickly, and seemingly fly without any effort at all. So, we can learn adaptability, lightheartedness, and flexibility from this magical creature.

In the shamanic tradition, dragonfly as a totem animal represents prosperity, good luck, strength, peace, harmony and purity. The dragonfly, in almost every part of the world symbolises change, change in yourself, and self-realisation. If you see dragonflies often, you have been called to look within and see what areas you could possibly improve on, and what you can shed in order to bring more light and freedom into your life. Dragonflies may also point to a great metamorphosis coming up in your life. Pay attention to the animals and signs around you. The dragonfly symbolises great transformation and personal growth, and invites you to dive into your emotions for fuller understanding of yourself and your personal journey.

The dragonfly is unique as it starts life in the water, climbs out its environment, and grows wings to fly. These are the kinds of changes that we can aspire to when we contemplating the miraculous dragonfly. The dragonfly encourages you to remember that you too can rise above it all and make your life more then you ever dreamed. You can make it a magical masterpiece.

Dragonflies have flown the Earth for 300 million years. A dragonfly symbolises our ability to overcome times of hardship. They remind us to take time to reconnect with our own strength, courage and happiness. The dragonfly has a short life and helps us be mindful of each precious moment; to value the opportunities to live, love and grow each day.

Dragonflies are said to have once been dragons from another world, so when you see one, their magic, power and mastery is right beside you.

The Magic of the Unconscious Mind

In Transformational Therapies we work with the subtle, yet powerful and magical Unconscious Mind. We can experience its intuitive nudges as a ‘gut-feel’ that comes to you out of nowhere and it’s worth tuning into its subtle guidance and inner wisdom. The language of your Unconscious Mind is more symbolic. It uses and responds to symbolism, which is why dreams, imagination and visualisation are so powerful. Learn more about working with your Unconscious Mind, tuning into its subtle nudges to become whole and create magic in your life here.

Soar with the Dragonfly over the Rainbow 

Why not take a journey with the dragonfly over the rainbow? A 12 Step journey of Self-mastery. You will be inspired to rise above the ego, transcend the ordinary, open up to the extraordinary with awareness and intention. Learn to flow through challenging experiences, releasing resistance, embrace the growth. Practise acceptance, gratitude & forgiveness. Open up to your full potential and unfold as your true masterful self. The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life.

Dragonfly (extract from the book: The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life) 
Emerging from its watery bed, a winged perceiver
Gliding through the air, effortlessly
Masterful in flight
Hovering ethereally 
Changing direction, swiftly
With inspiring lightness
Dazzling colours reflecting the light proudly, creatively 
Ever flexible; highly adaptable 
Fully present; highly attuned
Dragonfly, you have mastered water, air and light, in radiant colour
You have mastered movement and change, freedom and flow
A master of self, a powerful teacher
As you show us just how
You realise your fullest potential.


Meditations: Guided Meditations for Self-Transformation
The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life
Lifting the Veils of Illusion, 7 Steps to Spiritual Enlightenment 

Courses: Events Calendar
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