Living Fully



I hope you are enjoying this beautiful Autumn. Autumn is a great time for slowing down and reflecting, coming into the moment, wakening the senses to the beauty around us during this glorious golden season. Make this a time to invest in your own health: Physically, mentally and emotionally. This is a time for self-care and there is so much you can do for yourself.

Slow Down

Our continuous busy-ness can create stress and overthinking. Our minds become cluttered, forgetful and confused. Taking time to just be, can be very nourishing and refreshing. It is like a reset for the mind and brings much needed clarity. With the left thinking brain quieting, the right creative brain can open up. Daydreaming is a great way of just being. As you daydream, you just follow the natural trail of your thoughts as they flow into new creative ideas and perspectives. In the relaxed state of daydreaming, the mind opens up to the subtlety of intuition, inspiration and inner wisdom – the seat of creativity.

Letting go

Autumn is a season for letting go. Just as the house needs a declutter, so does the mind. Let go emotionally, of any unsettling emotional feelings and mentally, of all excessive thoughts. Set the intention to let it go, much like the trees let go of their leaves right now. Releasing brings relief and makes space for joy to return.

Let go of the need to control too. A major source of suffering is wanting things ‘my way’. Everything happens for your own learning and growth. Let go of the importance of other people’s opinions too. They are just opinions, not truths. When you attach too much value to their opinions, you are giving your power away. Liberate yourself from others’ opinions and give yourself the permission to just be your true self. That brings freedom and happiness.

Mindfully

Present moment awareness is a great mastery practice. Most people go through life and their daily routine in a trance, asleep, unaware, on automatic pilot. When we are present in the moment, we are truly alive and awakened.

Living Your Life to the Full

Bonnie Ware, a palliative care nurse in Australia, routinely asked her patients about their regrets. In her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, she records the following common regrets:

  1. I wish I’d dared to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me (pursuing your own dreams).
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard (work-life balance).
  3. I wish I’d dared to express my feelings (honouring and expressing your feelings positively impacts your health and happiness).
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends (personal connections make life meaningful).
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier (happiness is a choice regardless of circumstances).

Open up to the magic of life this November by enjoying the simple things in life. Get out, join the spirit of nature, kick some leaves, refresh and brighten up your own spirit. Meet up with friends, express your feelings and welcome joyful and happy moments into your life.

Resources

7 Holistic Self-Care Practices for the darker nights
Meditation: Loving Kindness in Autumn
Meditation: Gratitude Mindfulness Meditation
Plan ahead, book your space on our Meditation Courses starting Spring next year.
Time Line Therapy™ is the most powerful way to let go of all negative emotions and baggage from the past – anger, sadness, fear, depression and anxiety. We can also let go of self-doubt and limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential, and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

Anxiety, Stress and Depression – the Modern Day Illness

I’m just back from further training and development on these increasingly growing conditions affecting so many people. These are also the areas I have come to specialise in. Emotional health impacts you physically and mentally. Healing emotions is an essential step on the path of personal evolution. In this month’s blog we explore these big three, how they link together and what we can do about it.

Stress can be Good for You

That state of heightened alertness can be helpful for optimum performance at running a race or doing well in an interview or exam. Stress is both necessary and good. Adrenaline gives us a boost and then we return to normal. If we have experienced stress, we have to ensure that we restore the balance again. If we have stress for too long, it becomes anxiety. Extended unresolved stress can lead to depression.

Stress is not a problem when it comes from outside. Stress becomes a problem when it comes from inside. We all see things differently. We don’t see things as they are – we see things as we are. It’s not the situation that’s the problem – it’s the way we think about it.

What Causes Stress? 

Stress can be caused by change, work pressure, family pressure, unemployment or fear of job loss, loss of a loved one, relationship issues, time demands by others, financial concerns, lack of confidence, low self-esteem and even boredom. 

General lifestyle issues can also impact our mood and stress levels. Lifestyle examples are poor diet, too much caffeine, too much sugar, E-numbers (food additives and preservatives), Aspartame (artificial sweeteners in general), excessive alcohol, smoking/drugs, lack of exercise, no time to rest and relax, lack of sleep and medication with its many side effects.

Prolonged stress can affect the immune system and cause conditions such as Irritable Bowl Syndrome (IBS), Fibromyalgia, fatigue, weight problems, irritability, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and panic attacks.

What is a Panic Attack? 

When stress is not relieved, the stress hormones can build up in the system over time, leading to a panic attack. Relaxation is key and so is dealing with the emotion on the issue that causes the stress. 

The Gut-Brain Connection

Surprisingly, there’s a strong link between gut health and mental health. Healthy gut flora (gut bacteria) is key to mental health. Gut flora can be damaged by antibiotics, aspartame, non-organic meat of animals raised in confined spaces, highly processed foods and E-numbers. 

Poor gut flora has been linked to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Attention Deficit Hyper Activity Disorder, Autism, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia and Anxiety.  

Healthy Nutrition 

A good balanced diet is essential for: 

  • Energy 
  • Healing 
  • Stress management 
  • General well-being 
  • Efficient immune system.

If you want things in your life to change, you have to change things in your life. 

What Can you Do? 

  • Cut out or reduce caffeine
  • Cut out or reduce sugar – including artificial sweeteners
  • Reduce salt intake
  • Cut out junk food, fizzy and sweet drinks and food with E-numbers
  • Establish a good balanced diet of fresh unprocessed food
  • Reduce or cut out fatty foods
  • Reduce alcohol
  • Drink plenty of water
  • Stop smoking.

What about Anxiety?

There are many anxiety relieving techniques that you can practice yourself:

  • Distraction – plan pleasant activities 
  • Challenge negative thoughts 
  • Regular relaxation 
  • Breathing exercises
  • Be present in the moment – get your thoughts out of the future and the past
  • Express your feelings to get emotions such as anger out of your system in a healthy way
  • Set yourself small easily achievable goals 
  • Slow down
  • Regular exercise.

Benefits of exercise: 

  • Works the stress hormones out of your system
  • Reverses the detrimental effects of stress 
  • Lifts depression 
  • Builds self-esteem and confidence 
  • Improves body image and confidence 
  • Leaves you feeling euphoric. 

Types of light exercise that’s easy and good for you 

  • Pilates 
  • Yoga 
  • T’ai chi 
  • Swimming 
  • Walking 
  • Cycling.

What else can you do right now?

  • Listening to meditations 
  • Breathing exercises – a deeper in-breath and a longer out-breath 
  • Positive Self-talk 
  • Practice Self-hypnosis – Peripheral Vision, to relax the nervous system
  • Have some Positive Affirmations that you repeat to yourself, such as “I know I can do it” and “everything will work out well”
  • Ensure you give yourself some Me Time 
  • Get sufficient sleep
  • Practice Mindfulness 
  • Practice Gratitude.

Further Resources:

Transformational Therapies

It’s always best to get to the root cause and resolve issues for good. Time Line Therapy™ is the most powerful way to heal and release all negative emotions and baggage from the past – anger, sadness, fear, depression and anxiety. We can also let go of self-doubt and limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential, and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

Further Reading

The 4 Pillar Plan by Dr Rangan Chatterjee

Gut and Psychology Syndrome by Dr. Natasha Campbell-McBride