7 Key Practices to Restoring Balance

The holiday season is a great time for restoring balance. A key life lesson for many of us is finding balance. With more and more demands placed on our time, our lives can feel out of balance. Your body will tell you that it’s time to stop and restore the balance or your health may take strain. What do we mean by finding balance? Some may think of ‘the balancing act to get things done’, or the ‘balancing act of spinning all those plates’ or ‘work-life balance’ or ‘all in good balance’. However, it’s more than that. Balance is really a matter of spiritual evolution. When we find the balance point of all our experiences (resisting nothing and chasing nothing), we find a gateway to freedom.

So how do we really find balance and why is it important?

Here I share 7 key practices to finding the balance point; the point of liberation and transformation into a new way of being, that I hope will inspire you to bring balance and well-being into your own life.

7 Key Practices to Restoring Balance

Balancing Doing with Being

The classic Yin Yang balance; balancing action, activity and business with rest, recuperation, sleep and nurturing. This is where we often get things out of balance, work pressure and family responsibilities being the main culprits. All disease is imbalance. Your body can tell you when you get out of balance, by creating stiffness, aches and pains, often on one side more than the other, indicating a classic yin/yang imbalance in the body. We just have to tune in, feel and listen. All this doing needs to be balanced with just being – enjoying life. Meditation as a regular practice can be a trusted friend here. Meditation is a treat, not a chore – a practice of non-doing, of un-doing, of just being – a practice aimed at restoring balance.

Balancing Giving with Receiving

Why does it seem easier to give than to receive? Could you allow yourself to receive? Receiving without an ‘Ah you shouldn’t have…’. Receiving graciously with just a ‘Thank you’, allowing others the pleasure of doing something for you. Balancing the give-and-take in relationships, between what’s good for us personally and what’s good for the needs of those we care about, is an essential fine art and one you owe to yourself.

Balancing Others with Self

Many of us have been raised with the idea of putting other people first yet its a misconception that is misunderstood and mis-practised. When you feel duty-bound to do more for others or want to please others at the expense of yourself, you can create energetic imbalances which can leave you feeling resentful and drained. No one is more important than anyone else, as we are all equal in value. Caroline Myss (1997), in her discussion of healthy self-esteem, refers to two spiritual laws: ‘honouring one another’ and ‘honouring oneself’. These two laws are equal in importance and we are to balance how we practice and apply them. Through the practice of balance, we assert healthy boundaries.

Balancing Past and Future with the Present Moment

We create anxiety and stress through fear-based thoughts – regretting past events and thinking too far ahead, anticipating undesired future outcomes. When we come into the present moment, release takes place. Here nothing needs to be achieved or controlled. The present moment is completely free from stress. Here we can open up to the joy of life, it is also expansive, and time stands still. In the present, you can just be, flow and create.

Balancing Planning with Flowing

Planning serves its purpose, and it’s good to plan your day and scan your week ahead. Set your intentions and then let go of the importance of it. It’s a strange paradox, yet it keeps any self-investment out of it. Set your aim and then flow with the river of life and as much as we may want to pursue our own agendas, and sometimes it’s very important to do so, equally if we stay mindful of the bigger picture this can help us to find a good balance. Flowing opens us up to our inner guidance and life’s surprising synchronicities through which things fall in place in magical ways.

Balancing Head with Heart

Practically all inner conflict is a conflict between the head and heart; being in two minds about what to do and what’s important to us. Too often we overthink things whilst dismissing that wise intuitive inner voice only to regret it later. Sounds familiar doesn’t it? So, the ultimate balancing act is balancing the logical thinking head with the intuitive heart; the analytical conscious mind with the creative, emotional unconscious mind; the controlling ego self with the comfortable and ever-expansive true self. This integration brings the minds into oneness, wholeness and peace. Then the minds can work together in synergy, harmony and balance. This is true healing; the healing that brings transformation and enlightenment.

Balancing Heaven with Earth

In the body, the lower Chakras are more Yin, feminine and earthy and are about our grounding, our connection with the Earth, our physical and emotional health. The higher Chakras are more Yang, masculine and heavenly; being about the mind, the higher mind and spirit. Regardless of our gender, we each have both yin and yang energies in us and our life lesson is to bring them into balance inside of us. The Heart Chakra is the midway point, the natural place of balance and harmony. The heart connects and unites heaven and earth in the body. The heart is the gateway. When we slip into this balance-point and reside more in the heart, a gateway opens; a gateway to a more magical life where things flow and work out miraculously and you are liberated to evolve more into your expansive, magnificent and infinitely creative true self.

When we are in balance within ourselves we embody the knowledge of the universe, and we can expand beyond measure. 

Karma is about Balanced Experience 

Karma is the result of the duality that we experience in the 3-dimensional world where we learn through opposites – through struggles, tests and challenges. As we move into unity consciousness, we move beyond duality and learning through karma. When we integrate all opposites in us and bring ourselves into harmony and balance (something that is entirely possible now as it’s part of the shift we’re making), we can finally move beyond the wheel of karma. Then we are free to open up to the joy of life and learn through curiosity, creativity, love and positive experiences. The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life, expands on this theme as an essential purpose of this current life on Earth during this time of a shift into a new way of being.

Resources

A new series of Meditation Courses starting 11th September – Full details are in the Events Calendar. Book your space now.

Guided Meditation:  Meditation to Shift into the Heart

Guided Meditation: Chakra Balancing Meditation 

The Book: The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life

New: Current Cosmic Energies – an astrological overview 

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It’s Summertime – How can you Create Happiness?

Happiness is the one thing people chase more than anything else. At the start of coaching or therapeutic intervention, we usually reflect on what we want to achieve. People often say to me ‘I just want to be happy’. Happiness is not something you set a goal for, it’s a state of mind that you can choose and cultivate. Happiness is not something to be found in experiences or success or material things. It’s not something to achieve at some point, you can be happy right now.

Drukpa, Author of Happiness is a State of Mind offers a simplistic approach to happiness. He reminds us that happiness is already there. ‘Happiness is your nature’. You don’t need to pursue it, you just need to realise it’s there, in your heart. It may be covered by layers of thoughts, fears, worries and doubts, but it has always been there. How do we know this? For me the evidence is in a child. Observe children below the age of 5. They are naturally happy, fearless, adventurous, full of energy, have a lust for life and are naturally confident too. We were all like that before the conscious ego mind developed with all it’s doubts, fears and concern about opinions.

Drukpa adds: ‘The mind’s natural state is one of clarity and luminosity’. This is encouraging. We just need to learn to let go of the fog. Let go of the conditions we place on our happiness. Nurture the mind to loosen its grip on fear and worries. Then let the natural, true state of mind create your happy day, week and life. How often do we say ‘I’ll be happy if my day or week turns out successful? Well, it’s a bit like the chicken and egg; which one comes first? Happiness or success? Could happiness be the reason things turn out well? Research has now proven that a happy mind is more likely to create success. In fact success depends on a happy state of mind. So instead of chasing success, rather nurture and cultivate a happy mind. Our work is always inner work. With the investment of inner work, the outer world (a reflection of ourselves) resolves itself.

True happiness is freedom. Freedom from fear and worries. Freedom to be yourself. We were born with limitless creative, imagination. As we free our minds to open up, we can let in so much more life, so much more happiness. 

How can you cultivate happiness?

Here are six  key steps to happiness:

1. Gratitude
A key practice, gratitude activates happiness chemicals Serotonin and Dopamine and increases neurons in the prefrontal cortex; the higher mind.
– Start a happiness journal and capture 3 things a day for which you are grateful. This simple practice increases Serotonin levels by a significant 10% after 3 weeks according to research.
– Find happiness in everyday things like being grateful for warm water.
– Practice meditation. Take an attitude with gratitude into a mindfulness meditative practice. Reflect firstly on a person you are grateful for, secondly an event you are grateful for, thirdly something about yourself you are grateful for. In your Gratitude Mindfulness Meditation, focus on the feeling of gratitude – not the story.
– Express gratitude to somebody. Research found a 4-19% increase in levels of happiness when gratitude is expressed to a person.

2. Thought Labelling
You are not your thoughts.
– Standing back from your thoughts allows you to observe them, not be ruled by them.
– Listen to your own thoughts. Some thoughts drive emotional states:
– Shoulds or musts or ‘why didn’t I/they…’ create frustration.
– Always and never (this always happens to me) create anger.
– Catastrophising (expecting the worse) creates anxiety.
– All or nothing/black or white (nobody loves me/everybody hates me) thoughts create depression.
Ask yourself:
– Does this thought help me or harm me?
– Would I say the same thing to my best friend?
– Instead of giving yourself a hard time, bring compassion to yourself. Your journey is to become your own best friend.

3. Good Enough Decisions
Brain science has shown that making a decision, reduces worry and anxiety. It doesn’t have to be a perfect or ‘right’ decision, just a ‘good enough’ decision. Being a perfectionist can be stressful. Trying to be perfect overwhelms your brain with emotions and makes you feel out of control. You don’t have to prove anything. You are already enough just by existing, because of your own uniqueness. Once a good enough decision is made and even marginal steps taken in that direction, relief and happiness sets in.

4. Connection
It’s a basic need to feel love and acceptance from others. When we don’t, it is literally painful. Disconnection and loneliness creates pain. Research has shown that perceived rejection goes down the same pathways in the brain as physical pain.
– A key way to release Oxytocin is through touch – even a handshake or a pat on the back.
– 5 hugs a day is shown to raise Oxytocin significantly.
– Massage reduces pain, increases all the happy chemicals and decreases cortisol.
We are essentially social beings and cultivating positive interaction is essential for our happiness.

5. Savour Positive Experiences
Experience or relive a happy memory for at least 30 seconds, feeling it in the body. That develops happy neural pathways.

6. Meaning and Purpose
A longer lasting investment in your happiness is to identify what you find fulfilling and give expression to what brings meaning and purpose in your life. This can change from one phase of your life to another. It’s about expressing your unique interests, gifts and talents and how you can use them in service to humanity – asking: how can I help? When you combine your unique gifts with service to humanity, joy, abundance and flow follows.

Food for Thought
Happiness doesn’t happen to us. It is something we make happen. Nurture positive relationships, build on your own strengths, exercise choice, savour positive experiences and practice gratitude – often.

Sometimes we can do with a little help
Transformational therapies facilitate a gentle and effective way of healing and releasing issues of the past. It further provides useful mental tools that can be used to change unhelpful thought patterns. Ultimately therapy aims for wholeness of mind, bringing the head and heart into balance. The fears and doubts of the ego mind are exposed for what they are: false illusion. At the heart is who you really are, you’re unique, naturally happy, naturally confident self. Honouring your true self and living as your true self, is at the heart of happiness. Find our more at Timeline Therapy™.

Resources

Events and Courses
Join the forth-coming Meditation Course. The meditations are healing, uplifting and transformational. Full details are on the Events Calendar.

For all courses coming up in the Autumn, visit the Events Calendar.

Visit our stand Sunday 14th July at the Spirit & Wellbeing Day at the Chorley Football Club, PR7 3DU. Come for Energy Healing, Aura Cleanse, Chakra Activation to 12 Chakras. You can also experience a taster of Timeline Therapy™, buy health enhancing crystal jewellery and books

Meditation
Gratitude Mindfulness Meditation

Books
Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom by Rick Hanson
Happiness is a State of Mind by Gyalwang Drukpa
Foundations of Mastery: 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life

Lifting the Veils of Illusions: 7 Steps to Spiritual Enlightenment

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