Making Happiness Happen

I recently attended a Science of Happiness workshop. I was so inspired that I thought to capture the essence of it in this month’s blog. Let’s start by clarifying the science bit which has to do with the neurochemical in our bodies that impact our happiness. This by the way, was the biggest eye-opener for me:

Serotonin is the happiness chemical found in many anti-depresssants
Oxytocin is released when we feel love
Dopamine gives us the drive to do and achieve things
Adrenaline is the stress hormone released when danger is perceived
Cortisol is the more dangerous stress and anxiety-related chemical.

The question is, how do we naturally alter these five chemicals in our bodies to create balance, good health and happiness?

Adrenaline and Cortisol are clearly stress-related and impact negatively on our happiness levels, which is why we want to minimise stress-inducing situations in our lives to restore healthy balance.

Even the good happiness chemicals need to be kept in healthy balance. This was a major insight to me. I may have high Dopamine levels and feel driven to do and achieve things, but do I have enough Oxytocin and Serotonin to feel love and happiness?

So how do I go about increasing the good happiness chemicals in my body?

There are four key steps to happiness:

  • Gratitude
    A key practice, gratitude activates Serotonin and Dopamine and increases neurons in the prefrontal cortex; the higher mind.
    – Start a happiness journal and capture 3 things a day for which you are grateful. This simple practice increases Serotonin levels by a significant 10% after 3 weeks according to research.
    – Find happiness in everyday things like being grateful for warm water.
    – Practice meditation. Take an attitude with gratitude into a mindfulness meditative practice. Reflect firstly on a person you are grateful for, secondly an event you are grateful for, thirdly something about yourself you are grateful for. In your meditation (Podcast here), focus on the feeling of gratitude – not the story.
    – Express gratitude to somebody. Research found a 4-19% increase in levels of happiness when gratitude is expressed to a person.
  • Thought Labelling
    You are not your thoughts.
    – Standing back from your thoughts allows you to observe them, not be rules by them.
    – Listen to your own thoughts. Some thoughts drive emotional states:
    – Shoulds or musts or ‘why didn’t I/they…’ create frustration.
    – Always and never (this always happens to me) create anger.
    – Catastrophising (expecting the worse) creates anxiety.
    – All or nothing/black or white (nobody loves me/everybody hates me) thoughts create depression.
    Ask yourself:
    – Does this thought help me or harm me?
    – Would I say the same thing to my best friend?
    – Instead of giving yourself a hard time, bring compassion to yourself. Your journey is to become your own best friend.
    – Savour positive experiences. Relive a happy memory for 30 seconds, feeling it in the body, develops happy neural pathways.
  • Good Enough Decisions
    Brain science has shown that making decisions reduces worry and anxiety. It doesn’t have to be a perfect or ‘right’ decision, just a ‘good enough’ decision. Being a perfectionist can be stressful. Trying to be perfect overwhelms your brain with emotions and makes you feel out of control. You don’t have to prove anything. You are already enough just by existing, because of your own uniqueness. Once a good enough decision is made and even marginal steps taken in that direction, relief and happiness sets in.
  • Connection
    It’s a basic need to feel love and acceptance from others. When we don’t, it is literally painful. Disconnection and loneliness creates pain. Research has shown that perceived rejection goes down the same pathways in the brain as physical pain.
    – A key way to release Oxytocin is through touch – even a handshake or a pat on the back.
    – 5 hugs a day is shown to raise Oxytocin significantly.
    – Massage reduces pain, increases all the happy chemicals and decreases cortisol.
    We are essentially social beings and cultivating positive interaction is essential for our happiness.

A last thought
Happiness doesn’t happen to us. It is something we make happen. Nurture positive relationships, build on your own strengths, exercise choice, savour positive experiences and practice gratitude – often.

You are already awesome, get out of your own way – Ted Talk
Greater Good Science Centre
Martin Seligman – Authentic Happiness

Healing and Transformation Meditations – we have just added the Gratitude Mindfulness Meditation here for you

The Little Book of Hygge; the Danish way to live well – Recently recommended to me (thanks Tash) and full of practical inspiration.

A Time for Self-healing

Self-healing for World Healing
When I work with people to help uncover their true purpose, they often say something abstract like: ‘I want to help others’ or ‘I want to make the world a better place’. This may feel like such a big task and we don’t always know where to start. There are so many problems in the world. Where do I begin? Where do I go to assist? With so much going on in the world, it can feel quite overwhelming. The good news is, you don’t have to go to great extremes to do great work.

All Healing is Self-healing
By healing we don’t mean curing of symptoms, although sometimes the body might need relief from physical symptoms. True healing takes in the cause and therefore takes a holistic mind-body-spirit approach. This kind of holistic approach can be truly transformational as you look into all areas of your life and in the process grow and evolve tremendously as a person. As you evolve, the world evolves. As we release our fear, we lift the energy of the whole into ever lighter and finer vibrations, and we heal the planet.

‘As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others the permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others’ – Marianne Williams; A Return to Love

This is based on the principle of our interconnectedness – our essential oneness with the world and with one another.

All Our Work is Inner Work
‘Our psyche is set up in accord with the structure of the universe, and what happens in the macrocosm likewise happens in the most infinitesimal and most subject reaches of the psyche’ – C.G. Jung.

We are here on earth at this time for our own evolution and to assist with healing family and community. Carl Jung (Ruth Snowden 2006) referred to the fact that a lot of our personal psychological problems arose from family or cultural karma – problems that had not been resolved by our forebears were passed on to be sorted out by the next generation. He said that many problems are more to do with the social environment than the individual and are therefore linked to the collective unconscious. We don’t affect change just by working ‘out there’. It is through inner work that we bring about change in the outer world. The inside creates the outside. Our work is always an inside job. We are all connected. As you change, the world around you changes.

“Be at least as interested in what goes on inside of you as what happens outside. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place”Eckhart Tolle; The Power of Now

Every Day Can Truly be a New Beginning
Self-healing often involves healing relationships. You may have been hurt or treated unfairly. We have all been wronged and we have all caused suffering to others. We are all wounded. Our wounds are simply our opportunities to heal. You may have been misunderstood or regret things you said. Such conflict can cause blame, resentment and thoughts about how ‘they’ ought to change. We learn so much about ourselves in relationships. Everyone is our teacher, mirroring aspects of us. We can’t change others; we can only change ourselves. As we change, our lives begin to change. Patterns and habits change and we can now begin to let go of emotions, beliefs and baggage of the past. As we heal and release the issues of the past, it enables us to make peace and so create a clean slate; a new beginning. Every day can be a totally new beginning.

Healing and releasing stress, negative emotions and limiting beliefs, enables you to access your true magical self and live your life creatively, purposefully and joyfully.

“The more willing your are to work on yourself, the more good you will do for the world at large. Through deep personal transformation and improvement of self can your gifts unfold”. This is a quote adapted from Margaret Koolman’s latest blog. I’m always inspired by her Soul Astrology so here I’m providing a link to her New Moon Blog.

How Can You Achieve Self-healing Right Now?
There is nothing quite like the Lightworker Activation Course for deep and profound healing. This course takes you on an in-depth journey through the chakras – the energy centres of the body. Old patterns of fear, pain, self-doubt and negative thought forms are released. As the darkness goes, the light can set in. New positive thought forms are adopted and resources are activated that’s been lying latent inside of you all along. A unique and exciting experience – participants often describe this as the highlight of their lives as they heal the past and open up to their higher abilities. This course start 15 September – book quickly to ensure your space. All details are on the Events Calendar.

Self-help Resources
Our great teacher Deepak Chopra offers these 7 Affirmations for Self-Healing.

A great self-healing, self-help tool, Self-hypnosis – an exercise in relaxation and expanded awareness – activates your parasympathetic nervous system. It puts you in a relaxed, creative, resourceful state; a state in which no negative thought can be held. Shifting into the parasympathetic nervous naturally restores your good health and youthfulness.

Transformational Meditations
Healing realtionships with Ho’oponopono, Cutting Connections, accessible under Products. You can access further self-healing meditations FREE on

Lifting the Veils of Illusion, describes the path of personal transformation in 7 Key Steps. Essentially a healing journey, this book is an informative, interactive guide which includes all the healing meditations so you can navigate the path of self-healing and transformation in your own comfortable way.

Time Line Therapy™ enables emotional healing and release of limiting beliefs in a gentle, effective and lasting way. If you want to make wilful change in your yourself Hypnotherapy is a magical way of achieving that.


Healing Emotions; Raise Consciousness

The Significance of Emotions
Most of us have grown up in a modern-day society that values the intellect over emotions. Showing our emotions is just not the done thing, let alone expressing it. Many of our expressions don’t really encourage a healthy approach to emotions: ‘big boys don’t cry’; ‘bite your tongue’, ‘don’t speak in anger’; ‘count to 10 before you speak’. This approach can lead to the suppression of emotions. Consequently we don’t even acknowledge these emotions to ourselves. Especially negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt don’t feel so good so we tend to avoid them or suppress them. However, feeling these emotions is a normal natural aspect of being human and they are best acknowledged and expressed. From a therapeutic perspective, emotions aren’t a problem unless they are unresolved or suppressed. Feelings have to be acknowledged, at least to ourselves. They have to be felt and not suppressed. Suppression will just cause emotions to linger and grow stronger. Eventually unhealed emotions impact on our physical health.

As with pain in the body, our emotions are actually messages from the unconscious mind. Anger for example, can mean that someone may have overstepped your boundaries and that it may be time to re-assert those boundaries. Anxiety tells us that the mind is focused on a feared outcome and thus energising the very thing we don’t want. Sadness, hurt and depression are often a result of feelings that remained unexpressed and are now turned inward. If this continues over a prolonged period, it can impact on the body’s physical health.

The knowing and accepting of the feelings is the seed of healing. Paying attention to the emotion helps us to see clearly and so wisdom comes through attending to the feelings. A major source of suffering is wanting things ‘my way’. Everything happens for our own learning and growth. We can’t always see it when we’re in it. Soon you’ll look back and see how you have grown through it. Clear water reflects more light. When the murky waters of the unconscious mind is clear, wisdom shines through (Hanson 2009).

Why do we Want to Release Past Emotions?
Because of the Mind-Body Link. Negative emotions cause stress hormones which, if not worked through, necessarily have to be stored in the body. Unresolved, suppressed emotions can cause dis-ease in the body. The body reads the mind all the time.

Emotions can reflect our familial and habitual reactive patterns. Releasing emotions of the past is uplifting, healing and transformational. Once negative emotions heal and release, we can begin to experience positive emotions. The old is making way for the new.

Emotions have vibrations and this ladder of a Emotional Levels brilliantly illustrates the vibrational rates of the various levels of consciousness as measured by Dr David R. Hawkins (1995).

Emotional Levels:
*700-1000  Enlightenment
600  Bliss, Peace
540  Joy
500  Unconditional Love
400  Clarity, Understanding
350  Forgiveness, Acceptance
310  Hope, Contentment, Gratitude, Optimism, Positivity
250  Trust, Satisfaction
200  Courage, Affirmation
175  Pride, Self-righteousness
150  Anger, Resentment, Envy, Jealousy, Frustration, Irritation, Impatience, Control, Obsession
125  Desire, Craving, Enslavement, Addiction, Disappointment
100  Fear, Insecurity, Overwhelm, Worry, Doubt
75  Grief, Regret, Despondence
50   Pessimism, Boredom, Apathy, Despair, Depression, Disempowerment
30  Guilt, Blame
20  Shame, Feeling unworthy, Self-sacrifice, Feeling trapped or controlled
* logarithmic calibrations of energy vibratory frequencies on a scale from 0 – 1000

This ladder of a Emotional Levels are further expanded in the book Lifting the Veils of Illusion.

The lower negative emotions are more ego-based and the higher positive emotions are experienced when you are in you true higher self.

Emotional levels – as measured on this energy frequency scale from 0 to 1000 – are levels of consciousness. Where you dwell in emotions, there you dwell in consciousness. Consciousness – not DNA – is your blueprint for health. Consciousness, like an on-switch, changes the DNA and new possibilities open up and good health returns (Gill Edwards 2010).

Where you Dwell in Emotions, there you Dwell in Consciousness
It is natural to experience the whole range of emotions. One day you may feel optimistic and positive, and then comes a day when you feel low for no apparent reason. The question we have to ask ourselves is: “Where on this ladder of emotions do I find myself most of the time?” and “What emotions do I need to release to climb the ladder of consciousness?” At the bottom ranks of the ladder, the energy vibratory frequency is so low that, when we experience emotions like shame, guilt and depression, we can feel stuck. Here we feel a victim of circumstances and our health can be affected over time. Fear- and anger-related emotions start to generate energy and movement as we decide to fight or flee. Developing a healthy ego may bring some relief. With self-interest still a major motivator, we may from time to time be pushing against the flow of life. Releasing resistance and taking responsibility, begin to tip us into positive emotions. We are not quite free from the ego until we are truly able to practice acceptance and forgiveness. This is easier on the basis that we are one inter-connected whole. With forgiveness, we finally transcend the ego and become more of Who We Truly Are – our True Higher Selves. Clarity brings wisdom and previously evasive emotions of unconditional love, joy and peace are finally experienced as our true natural state. Youthfulness and good health, also our natural state, returns.

What Can You Do About It?
In the Transformational Therapies we facilitate gentle, yet powerful processes to enable you to heal emotions of the past. Emotions of anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt keep us attached to the past and as we heal these emotions, we set ourselves free from the past; free to create a new magnificent life. All healing is a release of fear. A powerful statement in a meditation are the words: I release…(eg this fear, this anger).

I would highly recommend Transformational Therapy that facilitates a complete clear-out of negative emotions and limiting beliefs. As a great self-help tool, you can listen to a Mindfulness Healing Meditation listed under Products. It is an inner journey that you can make for your own emotional healing as often as you want to release emotions and achieve lightness.

Join out next Lightworker Activation Course to experience deep healing. This course takes you on an in-depth journey through the chakras – the energy centres of the body. Old patterns of fear, pain, self-doubt and negative thought forms are released. As the darkness goes, the light can set in. New positive thought forms are adopted and resources are activated that’s been lying latent inside of you all along. A unique and exciting experience – participants blossom as they open up to their higher abilities and energy sensitivity. This course runs again in September  – book early to ensure your space. All details are on the Events Calendar.