Self-Mastery – Mastering Your Emotions

Last month we started our first Self-Mastery Meditation Course. It’s an exciting journey for me for alongside it, I’m writing my second book: Self-mastery, a 12 Step Journey to a Fulfilled Life. It’s a journey through the 12th Chakra-system and this month we explore mastering our energy and our emotions.

The foundational principles of mindfulness, which is practiced widely now, has its origin in Buddhism. These principles, although challenging, can be very helpful in broadening our awareness and observing our habitual emotional and mental patterns. They can also help us to remain non-reactive in situations that are emotionally charged, offering us a way to remain calm and clear.

1. Non-judging

Our tendency to label or categorise events, people and experiences as good or bad, liking or disliking, exciting or boring, fair or unfair or can do or can’t do it, is ego-induced arrogance. When we stop labelling or judging, we can become the impartial witness and see everything just as a learning experience. Monitor that critical voice in your head and stop judging yourself. When you do, you will stop judging others and they will stop judging you. Work on replacing the critical voice with a compassionate voice that gently and lovingly furthers your growth.

2. Patience

Be patient with your own experience – with what is happening in this moment – instead of rushing to the next. Live in the here and now. Patience is a form of wisdom. Let everything unfold in its own time. The butterfly can’t be helped out of a chrysalis.

3. Acceptance

Acceptance doesn’t mean liking or giving up or satisfied, it just means non-resistance and accepting what is right now as a starting point. Acceptance is a precondition for healing. Acceptance brings peace. Embrace acceptance and compassion as opportunities for Mastery.

4. Non-attachment

We create our own suffering by holding onto things or wanting things to be different from what they are. We want to hang onto pleasure and avoid pain. We hang onto summer and the holiday and dreading winter and going back to work. Just let your experience be as it is. Notice and let go. Let go of the attachment to specific outcomes as well. That is a habit of control. Accept and let go of everything. Let go like you do when you go to sleep at night. Then you can start the new day afresh and free.

5. Letting go

Set the intention to let it go. Releasing brings relief and makes space for joy to return.
Let go emotionally; of any unsettling feelings and mentally; of excessive thoughts. Let go of the need to control too. A major source of suffering is wanting things ‘my way’. Everything happens for your own learning and growth. Let go of the importance of other people’s opinions too. They are just opinions, not truths. When you attach too much value to their opinions, you are giving your power away. Liberate yourself from others opinions and give yourself the permission to just be your true self. That brings freedom and happiness.

6. Non-doing

Our continuous busy-ness can create stress and overthinking. Our minds become cluttered, forgetful and confused. Taking time to just be, can be very nourishing and refreshing. It is like a reset for the mind and brings much needed clarity. With the left thinking brain quieting, the right creative brain can open up. Daydreaming is a great way of just being. As you daydream, you just follow the natural trail of your thoughts as they flow into new creative ideas and perspectives. In the relaxed state of daydreaming, the mind opens up to the subtlety of intuition, inspiration and inner wisdom – the seat of creativity.

7. Connectedness

Awareness of our intrinsic wholeness & interconnectedness, offers us a new approach to emotions. Emotions are contagious and it’s easy to feel others fear, sadness and anger. Equally, when you are calm, at peace, loving and joyful, you bring a beautiful gift of upliftment to others.

8. Wakefulness

Present moment awareness is The Great Practice. Most people go through life and their daily routine in a trance, asleep, unaware, on automatic pilot. When we are present in the moment, we are truly alive and awakened. Through wakefulness you can bring continuous conscious awareness to:
Your Perceptions: Our reality is just a perception coloured in by our beliefs, values, memories and experiences. We always perceive subjectively. What am I not seeing?
Your Beliefs: are self-fulfilling prophesies. Our beliefs create our realities. Do I believe I can do it?
Your Thoughts: Be mindful of your self-talk. As you think so you create. Are my thoughts helpful to me?
The Mind-body Link: Mind and body is one interconnected whole. Pain and emotions are messages from your unconscious mind. Unresolved suppressed emotions can cause dis-ease in the body. What is my body and my feelings telling me?
Your Responsibility: Am I taking full responsibility for everything happening in my life?
Cause and Effect: Am I acting or reacting? Am I a victim or a creator? Embrace your creative energy. What am I creating?

9. Daily Reflection

Every experience, even the challenges and so-called mistakes, have been part of your growth. A key practice in Timeline Therapy™ is to reflect on the learning experiences of past events. You can do your own daily reflection by asking yourself:
What was good about today?
What was not so good?
What am I learning from it?
What will I do different next time?
Then after your reflection, let it go. Sometimes you may have to bring compassion and forgiveness to yourself and others. You will feel a weight lifting and the release can be very healing.

Resources:

Time Line Therapy™
With Time Line Therapy™ we can heal and release all negative emotions and baggage from the past – anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt. Mentally, we can let go of limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential; and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

Meditations:
For the mindful approach to healing and releasing emotions, you can listen to our guided meditation: Healing Emotions the Mindful Way.

Lifting the Veils of Illusion
This book facilitates an all-encompassing holistic journey of personal empowerment and spiritual growth in 7 essential steps. It is an informative, interactive guide so you can navigate the path of self-healing and transformation in your own comfortable way. With the book you have access to a range of free meditations

Courses: For Meditation and Holistic Courses near you visit the Events Calendar.

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Early Spring Holistic Detox

I often get inspiration for my monthly blog from my discussions and interactions with people. It struck me recently that generally, people are still unaware of the impact of unhealed emotions on the physical health of the body. We know the body can do with a detox, but what about a holistic mental and emotional detox?

Why do we Want to Release Past Emotions?
Negative emotions cause stress hormones. If not worked through, these harmful chemicals are stored in the body. This is how, over time, unresolved, suppressed emotions can cause dis-ease in the body.

There is a researched link between suppressed emotions and illness like cancer. There is also a link between anger and high blood pressure and between heart disease and hostility or cynicism. There’s a link between weight gain and unresolved emotions as these harmful toxins are stored in fat cells away from the main organs – the body’s way of protecting the organs. Considering the powerful mind-body-link, a rigid mental approach – wanting to control the outcome of things, holding on to things or people too tightly and resisting change – can cause stiffness, aches and pains; even arthritis in the body. Conversely, research indicates that, generally people who are optimistic, intuitively know they have a choice, the ability to let go, to flow with change and to laugh at themselves. They have a basic trust in people, are robust and healthy.

The Mind-Body Link
Bruce Lipton says that more than 95% of all illnesses in the body are caused by the mind. Stress, fear and limiting beliefs are the cause of most modern day ill-health. This is interesting and also very empowering as it puts us in charge of our own health.

So, how about an early Spring holistic detox? There is a lot you can do to invest in your own health. Here are 7 easy self-care practices to kick-start your holistic Spring detox:

1. Mindful Emotional Healing
Spend a bit of time with yourself in mindful reflection. How do you feel physically? How are your energy levels? Lately, what have you been feeling emotionally? Identify theses feelings. Is it anger, frustration, blame, resentment, low feelings, depression, sadness, fear, anxiousness, worry, hurt, guilt or shame? By identifying and acknowledging the feelings, the healing can begin. Now focus on what’s causing these feelings in you? What are you learning from it about yourself? What can you change in you? With this new insight and growth, it’s time to let it go.

2. Letting go
Negative thoughts and low, or fearful or angry feelings can sap your energy. The simple practice of letting go can be very healing. Releasing the thoughts and emotions with intent, can make you feel lighter. This is another purpose of meditation. Follow this Mindfulness Healing Meditation to reflect on the issues of the day, learn from them and then let them go. This way you can put the day to bed and tomorrow can be a whole new beginning, a clean slate. This is the beauty of life: everyday can be a new beginning.
‘When the mind is left without anything to cling to, it becomes still’ – Sri Ramana Maharshi

3. Cutting cords
Our interaction with people around us naturally create connections, sometimes physically, mentally, emotionally and also energetically. Connections are made through rapport, touch, strong emotions (even anger and upset), strong thoughts and communication (even on the phone). Such interactions can keeps us connected, even after we’ve parted. So there is still a flow of thoughts, feelings and energy between us. If you have many such connections open, your energy can feel scattered and you can feel drained. You are supplying others with your energy. If you still feel angry or upset with someone, these strong emotions keep you energetically attached. That’s why that person remains on your mind. Sometimes to cut these cords we may have to go through a forgiveness process. Forgiveness restores your energy and your health and sets you free. This release can feel like a huge weight lifting as you put the past behind you peacefully.

A powerful healing meditation to cut the energy cords after you have interacted with people, is the Huna practice called Ho’oponopono. I use this fairly frequently to clear any thoughts or emotions after intense interactions, to let go of people on my mind, to cut cords and bring my energy back intact. In this way you can put the past behind you and relate to those around you afresh. Sometimes you have to say no to some of the demands people place on you, so that you can restore yourself and create balance between others’ needs and your own.

4. Refreshing
Many of the energy practices such as Yoga and Tai-Chi have the purpose of cleansing, refreshing and re-energising your energy. Walking in nature can be equally refreshing. Nature is naturally cleansing. When you walk near water or trees, you can intend that your mind clears, that thoughts wash away and that your energy field is cleansed in the breeze. Getting enough sleep is also refreshing. Sleep acts as a reset for the body and mind.

5. Clearing
Meditation is another way of clearing the mind, creating stillness and refreshing yourself mentally, emotional and physically. In a meditative state you can visualise a cleansing light showering down on you, cleansing the body and the energy field around you. Give the gadgets a break. The electromagnetic smog they emanate, impacts on your energy levels. Spring clean your house, clean your car and declutter with intent. When your environment is clear, your mind will feel all the clearer for it.
The inside creates the outside and the outside impacts the inside.

6. Re-energising
There is much you can do to re-energise yourself. We get energy from the food we eat, water we drink, soaking up sunlight and exercising. One of the most effective ways of re-energising yourself is through breathing practices – another purpose of meditation.

7. Breathing
The Importance of the breath
– Breath is life. As long as we breathe we are alive!
– Breath is energy. Through breathing we generate energy.
– Breath is spirit. As we breathe in – inspire – we enliven ourselves.
Benefits of breathing
The simple practice of deep breathing is the most effective way to:
– Energise yourself
– Detoxify – 70% of toxins in the body are released through breathing
– Relax – a longer out-breath, like a sigh, relaxes the nervous system
– Slow your heart rate
– Raise your energy to higher vibrations and you feel uplifted
– Clear the mind
– Align your mind, body and soul
– Restore balance.

Useful Resources:
Courses: For Meditation and Holistic Courses near you visit the Events Calendar.

Time Line Therapy™
How about a complete clearout, emotionally and mentally? With Time Line Therapy™ we can heal and release all negative emotions and baggage from the past – anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt. Mentally we can let go of limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential; and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. Time Line Therapy™ is equally effective in overcoming limiting beliefs and building empowering beliefs and confidence. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

Lifting the Veils of Illusion
This book facilitates an all-encompassing holistic journey of personal empowerment and spiritual growth in 7 essential steps. It is an informative, interactive guide so you can navigate the path of self-healing and transformation in your own comfortable way. With the book you have access to a range of free meditations

Mindfulness
For the mindful approach to healing and releasing emotions, you can listen to our guided meditation: Healing Emotions the Mindful Way.

Meditations:

Follow this link to our Products: Transformational Meditations page:

Ho’oponopono – Cutting Connections

Mindfulness Healing Meditation

Chakra Balancing Meditation

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