Master Your Mind and Your Thoughts


The number of people experiencing anxiety and depression are on the increase. The big question is always ‘How do I still my mind and stop my thoughts?’ The mind is so powerful and your thoughts create outcomes, so it’s worth mastering your mind. This month’s blog focuses on the creative power of your mind and how you can practically take charge of your mind and your thoughts.

What do successful people have in common?

  • Clarity – they are clear on what specifically they want
  • Focused intention – they set clear intentions and keep a positive focus
  • Disciplined thought – they focus on what they want, not what they don’t want. They may note their fears, but focus on their desired results.
  • Action – they take inspired action
  • Belief – they maintain positive belief.

The creative power of your mind

Your mind is immensely creative and the possibilities are infinite. Your nervous system is designed to give you what you focus on. Everything starts with a thought, an idea that we energise through focus. It’s a conscious choice what you focus your mind on. What you focus on, you energise, expand, make more of. Focused thought expands the probability; the likeliness of the outcome. If you focus on what can go wrong you create more fear. We seem to be good at telling the mind what we don’t want to happen. That leaves the mind confused about what you do want. Goals give the mind a positive focus and direct the mind towards what you want. Take note of what you don’t want and focus on what you do.


I don’t want to be late. What do you want? I want to get there in time for a cup of tea before we start the meeting.

I don’t want to be ill. What do you want? I want to be healthy and well. Better still, I am healthy and well. Your mind picks up on every thought and the suggestions hidden in your thoughts. Your mind wants to please you and give you what you ask for, so be very specific.

As you think and speak, so you create.

We create through thought, word and deed. The architect refines a concept of a house with a detailed plan, making it real. Equally, your goal written down, refines your abstract thoughts or big picture vision and draws it through from the ideas plane into the 3 dimensional world of form. We chase our dreams, assert our will and exercise our power of choice. Choice is very empowering. You always have more choices than you may believe at the time.

Finding ways of expressing your own uniqueness creatively, is important for your happiness. Deep inside you is an awareness that you were born for a specific purpose. This awareness is a strong motivating driver. It’s natural to seek meaning and purpose, and when you endeavour to align your actions accordingly, your life begins to feel fulfilled.

You have infinite potential inside of you. You are more than you’ve read, heard or studied; you know more because you are more. You have an inner wisdom and a wealth of resources to tap into. You only have to look, listen and trust. Modern quantum science is discovering what the ancient wisdom teachers knew. Old and new are most elegantly described in the ancient Hawaiian philosophy of Huna.

Seven Principles of Huna – Ancient Wisdom

  • The world is what you think it is (BE AWARE).
  • There are no limits, everything is possible (BE FREE)
  • Energy flows where attention goes (BE FOCUSED)
  • Now is the moment of power (BE HERE)
  • To love is to be happy (BE HAPPY)
  • All power comes from within (BE CONFIDENT).
  • Effectiveness is the measure of truth (BE POSITIVE)

Thought Awareness

Certain modes of thinking can drive negative emotional states:

‘Should’ and ‘must’ type thoughts as well as ‘why don’t they…’ place high expectations on ourselves or others and are frustration drivers.

‘Always’ and ‘never’ type thinking pushes us into the extreme (e.g. “I am always helping you and you never help me”) and are anger drivers.

Catastrophising (‘what if’ type thoughts or beliefs that something is, or could be, far worse than it actually is) creates anxiety.

‘All or nothing’ or ‘black and white’ or ‘right or wrong’ or ‘nobody’ and ‘everybody’ type thoughts – absolutes rather than shades of grey – (e.g. nobody cares) are depression drivers.

Sometimes these thoughts are habitual thoughts that perpetuate the disempowering victim state. Bring the nature of your thoughts into your awareness. Are they helpful or harmful? Let your thoughts be kind, compassionate and reassuring to yourself as if you are your own best friend. Have faith in your intuitive guidance and trust that everything happens for a reason.

Negative thoughts

I’m often asked: how do I stop the negative thoughts. Here are some very useful practical suggestions as published by the Chopra Centre: “Retrain your brain – how to reverse negative thought patterns”.


Practice mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, perceptions, beliefs and their creative power. Practice mindfulness of your true nature and inner guidance. Follow this Mindfulness Meditation.


Set positive intentions and creative visualisations. Follow this Manifestation meditation.

Make Peace

Our thoughts are calmer when we are at peace with everyone around us. Use this powerful meditation to be at peace so you can use your mind and thoughts positively. Follow this meditation Ho’oponopono to cut connections.

Further Reading

Ancient Hawaiian Secrets for Modern Living, by Serge K. King (2008)


Self-mastery Through Changing Perceptions

Meditation is a great self-healing tool. We have already explored the use of Ho’oponopono, the Huna forgiveness ritual for healing relationships and making peace. Recently, on the Self-Mastery Advanced Meditation Course, we used this same powerful forgiveness meditation in more advanced ways – to change perceptions, clear the slate and recreate your world; your holographic universe afresh.

Possibly one of the most magical healing meditations, Ho’oponopono wipes the slate clean. If you’ve had a challenging experience in any of your relationships, Ho’oponopono facilitates forgiveness and allows you to change existing perceptions. Whatever your perception of another person may be, it’s just a perception. Equally, how others perceive you, is only a perception. Perceptions aren’t truths, they are simply made up. If you have done something to offend others (something that happens to all of us – mostly unintentionally), then the Ho’oponopono forgiveness process is the way to clear the air and put things right. 

Healing Perceptions of Money, Business or your Home

Our relationships go beyond people. You can use Ho’oponopono to recreate your relationship e.g. with money, your business and your house. If your experience of money is limited rather than abundant, investigate your beliefs around money; whether you believe you deserve abundance. What’s your relationship with your business, job or career? How would it be different if you could change your perception of it; if you believed in it; if you were grateful for it? How do you feel about your home? Even if you desire a change, it will come your way easier from a basis of love and appreciation. Equally, if you’re trying to sell your house and you are too attached to it, potential buyers won’t get a feel for it. Sometimes we are attached to places where we have lived or visited and we still have one foot in that place. As a result, we could feel scattered or ‘all over the place’. This stops us from moving on, feeling rooted and being truly present. Letting go energetically allows you to feel whole again; brings movement and new opportunities into your life.


Do you have past experiences that continue to bring up feelings of guilt or embarrassment? If so, these events are still unresolved in the mind and are keeping you attached to the past. No one is perfect or free from so called ‘mistakes’ (better labelled as growth experiences). Is it time to clear the self-criticism, free yourself and bring love and compassion to your life? 

Everything happens for a reason, always. Every experience in your life was designed to shape you and reform you – Aristotle 

The Psychology of Perceptions and Projections

Carl Jung, the Psychologist, said that we project our deep-seated unconscious issues out onto people around us. We then think they are the problem, because we couldn’t see it in ourselves. What you see in others is who you are yourself (what you like and don’t like). In the holographic model of the universe, there is no one outside of you, that isn’t you. Taking responsibility for our own perceptions takes self-empowerment and personal transformation to a whole new level of mastery. When we take charge of our perceptions we can change it anytime, e.g. from ‘People will think I’m crazy’ to ‘People will find this inspiring’. When we change our perceptions (the slide in the hologram), everything and everyone around us change, and quite magically, we project out new characters and experiences in our universe.

 Perceptions are Projected 

  • We grow and evolve through relationships
  • Our views of others is only a perception
  • We tend to project our perceptions onto others
  • What you see in others is who you are yourself 
  • We are always looking in a mirror
  • You are in charge of your perceptions and can challenge and change them
  • We can only change ourselves – we cannot change others
  • When you change your perceptions, people change, and your experiences too
  • Everyone around you is your teacher – helping you to learn something about yourself – especially those testing ones. That’s how you grow and evolve. 

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is essential for your health. Research has shown how anger, resentment and hostility physically impacts on the heart as it can cause hardening arteries and heart attacks (Gill Edwards 2010).

True healing often involves deep forgiveness or a shift in consciousness; changing your perceptions of those testing people in your life, and those who caused you hurt. This is based on a recognition that, from a higher perspective, everything happens for learning and growth. Hypnotherapist Robert Schwartz, describes these interactions from a pre-life planning perspective. He describes how soul groups co-plan and agree life events. How we pre-plan our growth experiences and it may include many individual agreements to meet and work with certain people in certain places at certain times. For you to learn the growth lesson you wanted to, others agreed to act out certain roles (Robert Schwartz 2012). Some of these roles may feel testing but ultimately they are acts of love as it helps you to grow and evolve. Seeing it like this, certainly makes forgiveness easier.

Working with your perceptions is the advance work of self-mastery and forgiveness is your most powerful practice. Forgiveness retrieves your soul and liberates you from the past. All forgiveness is a gift of healing and renewal for yourself. 

Healing Meditation: Ho’oponopono – Cutting Connection – use this powerful healing meditation creatively. Adapt it to your needs. Heal yourself, your relationship with money, your business, your home. Retrieve your energy from past experiences and places. Change limiting beliefs and negative perceptions. Be at peace with everyone in your universe, for your own sake.
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