The holiday season is a great time for restoring balance. A key life lesson for many of us is finding balance. With more and more demands placed on our time, our lives can feel out of balance. Your body will tell you that it’s time to stop and restore the balance or your health may take strain. What do we mean by finding balance? Some may think of ‘the balancing act to get things done’, or the ‘balancing act of spinning all those plates’ or ‘work-life balance’ or ‘all in good balance’. However, it’s more than that. Balance is really a matter of spiritual evolution. When we find the balance point of all our experiences (resisting nothing and chasing nothing), we find a gateway to freedom.
So how do we really find balance and why is it important?
Here I share 7 key practices to finding the balance point; the point of liberation and transformation into a new way of being, that I hope will inspire you to bring balance and well-being into your own life.
7 Key Practices to Restoring Balance
Balancing Doing with Being
The classic Yin Yang balance; balancing action, activity and business with rest, recuperation, sleep and nurturing. This is where we often get things out of balance, work pressure and family responsibilities being the main culprits. All disease is imbalance. Your body can tell you when you get out of balance, by creating stiffness, aches and pains, often on one side more than the other, indicating a classic yin/yang imbalance in the body. We just have to tune in, feel and listen. All this doing needs to be balanced with just being – enjoying life. Meditation as a regular practice can be a trusted friend here. Meditation is a treat, not a chore – a practice of non-doing, of un-doing, of just being – a practice aimed at restoring balance.
Balancing Giving with Receiving
Why does it seem easier to give than to receive? Could you allow yourself to receive? Receiving without an ‘Ah you shouldn’t have…’. Receiving graciously with just a ‘Thank you’, allowing others the pleasure of doing something for you. Balancing the give-and-take in relationships, between what’s good for us personally and what’s good for the needs of those we care about, is an essential fine art and one you owe to yourself.
Balancing Others with Self
Many of us have been raised with the idea of putting other people first yet its a misconception that is misunderstood and mis-practised. When you feel duty-bound to do more for others or want to please others at the expense of yourself, you can create energetic imbalances which can leave you feeling resentful and drained. No one is more important than anyone else, as we are all equal in value. Caroline Myss (1997), in her discussion of healthy self-esteem, refers to two spiritual laws: ‘honouring one another’ and ‘honouring oneself’. These two laws are equal in importance and we are to balance how we practice and apply them. Through the practice of balance, we assert healthy boundaries.
Balancing Past and Future with the Present Moment
We create anxiety and stress through fear-based thoughts – regretting past events and thinking too far ahead, anticipating undesired future outcomes. When we come into the present moment, release takes place. Here nothing needs to be achieved or controlled. The present moment is completely free from stress. Here we can open up to the joy of life, it is also expansive, and time stands still. In the present, you can just be, flow and create.
Balancing Planning with Flowing
Planning serves its purpose, and it’s good to plan your day and scan your week ahead. Set your intentions and then let go of the importance of it. It’s a strange paradox, yet it keeps any self-investment out of it. Set your aim and then flow with the river of life and as much as we may want to pursue our own agendas, and sometimes it’s very important to do so, equally if we stay mindful of the bigger picture this can help us to find a good balance. Flowing opens us up to our inner guidance and life’s surprising synchronicities through which things fall in place in magical ways.
Balancing Head with Heart
Practically all inner conflict is a conflict between the head and heart; being in two minds about what to do and what’s important to us. Too often we overthink things whilst dismissing that wise intuitive inner voice only to regret it later. Sounds familiar doesn’t it? So, the ultimate balancing act is balancing the logical thinking head with the intuitive heart; the analytical conscious mind with the creative, emotional unconscious mind; the controlling ego self with the comfortable and ever-expansive true self. This integration brings the minds into oneness, wholeness and peace. Then the minds can work together in synergy, harmony and balance. This is true healing; the healing that brings transformation and enlightenment.
Balancing Heaven with Earth
In the body, the lower Chakras are more Yin, feminine and earthy and are about our grounding, our connection with the Earth, our physical and emotional health. The higher Chakras are more Yang, masculine and heavenly; being about the mind, the higher mind and spirit. Regardless of our gender, we each have both yin and yang energies in us and our life lesson is to bring them into balance inside of us. The Heart Chakra is the midway point, the natural place of balance and harmony. The heart connects and unites heaven and earth in the body. The heart is the gateway. When we slip into this balance-point and reside more in the heart, a gateway opens; a gateway to a more magical life where things flow and work out miraculously and you are liberated to evolve more into your expansive, magnificent and infinitely creative true self.
When we are in balance within ourselves we embody the knowledge of the universe, and we can expand beyond measure.
Karma is about Balanced Experience
Karma is the result of the duality that we experience in the 3-dimensional world where we learn through opposites – through struggles, tests and challenges. As we move into unity consciousness, we move beyond duality and learning through karma. When we integrate all opposites in us and bring ourselves into harmony and balance (something that is entirely possible now as it’s part of the shift we’re making), we can finally move beyond the wheel of karma. Then we are free to open up to the joy of life and learn through curiosity, creativity, love and positive experiences. The Foundations of Mastery, 12 Steps to a Fulfilled Life, expands on this theme as an essential purpose of this current life on Earth during this time of a shift into a new way of being.