Living Fully



I hope you are enjoying this beautiful Autumn. Autumn is a great time for slowing down and reflecting, coming into the moment, wakening the senses to the beauty around us during this glorious golden season. Make this a time to invest in your own health: Physically, mentally and emotionally. This is a time for self-care and there is so much you can do for yourself.

Slow Down

Our continuous busy-ness can create stress and overthinking. Our minds become cluttered, forgetful and confused. Taking time to just be, can be very nourishing and refreshing. It is like a reset for the mind and brings much needed clarity. With the left thinking brain quieting, the right creative brain can open up. Daydreaming is a great way of just being. As you daydream, you just follow the natural trail of your thoughts as they flow into new creative ideas and perspectives. In the relaxed state of daydreaming, the mind opens up to the subtlety of intuition, inspiration and inner wisdom – the seat of creativity.

Letting go

Autumn is a season for letting go. Just as the house needs a declutter, so does the mind. Let go emotionally, of any unsettling emotional feelings and mentally, of all excessive thoughts. Set the intention to let it go, much like the trees let go of their leaves right now. Releasing brings relief and makes space for joy to return.

Let go of the need to control too. A major source of suffering is wanting things ‘my way’. Everything happens for your own learning and growth. Let go of the importance of other people’s opinions too. They are just opinions, not truths. When you attach too much value to their opinions, you are giving your power away. Liberate yourself from others’ opinions and give yourself the permission to just be your true self. That brings freedom and happiness.

Mindfully

Present moment awareness is a great mastery practice. Most people go through life and their daily routine in a trance, asleep, unaware, on automatic pilot. When we are present in the moment, we are truly alive and awakened.

Living Your Life to the Full

Bonnie Ware, a palliative care nurse in Australia, routinely asked her patients about their regrets. In her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, she records the following common regrets:

  1. I wish I’d dared to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me (pursuing your own dreams).
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard (work-life balance).
  3. I wish I’d dared to express my feelings (honouring and expressing your feelings positively impacts your health and happiness).
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends (personal connections make life meaningful).
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier (happiness is a choice regardless of circumstances).

Open up to the magic of life this November by enjoying the simple things in life. Get out, join the spirit of nature, kick some leaves, refresh and brighten up your own spirit. Meet up with friends, express your feelings and welcome joyful and happy moments into your life.

Resources

7 Holistic Self-Care Practices for the darker nights
Meditation: Loving Kindness in Autumn
Meditation: Gratitude Mindfulness Meditation
Plan ahead, book your space on our Meditation Courses starting Spring next year.
Time Line Therapy™ is the most powerful way to let go of all negative emotions and baggage from the past – anger, sadness, fear, depression and anxiety. We can also let go of self-doubt and limiting beliefs that keep you from feeling confident and reaching your highest potential, and develop empowering beliefs and natural confidence instead. Time Line Therapy™ is unique in its approach and resolves issues remarkably quickly without having to go into a lot of details. For more information click on this link: Time Line Therapy™.

How do we Connect with the Unconscious Mind?

In Transformational Therapy and Coaching, the aim is to bring our minds – the Conscious thinking mind and the Unconscious creative emotional mind into congruence. This wholeness of mind is what health and healing is all about. The great Hypnotherapist, Milton Erickson, said that his clients are his clients because they are out of rapport with their Unconscious Minds. Unfortunately, many of us are!

My previous blog, still below on the What’s New page of my website, described the nature of the Unconscious Mind, and it’s easy to see how magical a mind it is. Recently, on NLP trainings, I was asked: how do we connect with the Unconscious Mind? Good question! Here follow 7 ways that we can connect with our Unconscious Minds and by doing so we become whole, healthy, creative and able to achieve goals we set ourselves:

  1. Being in your Body

Connecting with your Unconscious Mind is easier when you are actually grounded in your body. Too often we are in our conscious thinking mind and miss the subtle nudges of the Unconscious Mind. It’s not a very logical mind, quite the contrary, and often communicates with you through aches and pains in the body, telling you to do something different, like slowing down. Your Unconscious Mind runs your body and your health and always knows what to do to restore and maintaining  your good health.

  1. Attending to your Emotions

Your Unconscious Mind is the domain of your emotions. Instead of avoiding or suppressing your emotions, acknowledge them, attend to them, feel them, learn from them and then let them go. When you do this, your Unconscious Mind feels acknowledged. Besides, it’s much better for your health to attend to your emotions, express them, at least to yourself, and then let them go.

  1. Listening to your Intuition

To connect with your Unconscious Mind, operate from your heart and your gut. Those messages that come from your Unconscious Mind as intuition and gut-feel, are very subtle and worth tuning into. These subtle whispers come to us as a first thought, which we too often dismiss in favour of analysing and over-thinking. We all have experienced, in hind-sight, regret in not following that initial gut-feel. It’s worth considering your gut-feel in decision-making too as it’s the source of your inner wisdom. Analysing your dreams, is another great way to tune in and catch the subtle messages from your Unconscious Mind. This symbolic language of your Unconscious Mind may not easily be understood at first. As you analyse your dreams more and more, over time, you will be richly rewarded for the effort of listening and attending to the messages from your Unconscious Mind.

  1. Talking to you Unconscious Mind

Well, you are doing so already. Every thought is a communication with your Unconscious Mind. The question is, what kind of thoughts and suggestions do you feed yourself? Your Unconscious Mind is highly suggestible, so keep your thoughts positive, constructive and uplifting. Positive suggestions like: ‘I feel healthy’, ‘I am creative’ and ‘I can do it!’ can make all the difference. Tell your Unconscious Mind what you want to achieve, as it is the mind that actually achieved your goals for you. Do it through the use of your imagination and visualisation so that you communicate in the symbolic language of your Unconscious Minds. Clear imagery of the desired end-result, linked with happy feelings are so much more motivating to your Unconscious Mind. By the way, be quite clear and specific as your Unconscious Mind is very creative! Visualised goals also elicit your Unconscious Mind’s assistance in changing unhealthy habits for new healthier habits, allowing you to achieve desired change so much quicker.

  1. Relaxation

Stress is constrictive and keeps us in the logical left brain which is somewhat limiting in comparison to your infinite creative Unconscious Mind. When you are relaxed, your imagination opens up and you can bring your whole brain to the task at hand. Solutions that previously escaped you, now pop up spontaneously from that creative right brain, which is your Unconscious Mind. We tend to dismiss imagination as something children do. Yet, your imagination is your greatest creative tool and opens you up to the magical world of your Unconscious Mind, where anything is possible and can come about in surprising ways – ways you may not have considered. So when you feel stressed or stuck for ideas, take a walk, get a breath of fresh air or simply chill. Breathing practices help. Breathing, like so many of your body’s automatic processes are taken care of by your Unconscious Mind. By breathing mindfully, you bring the Conscious and Unconscious Minds in communion. Diaphragmatic breathing is especially good as it gets you lower down, into the calm zone of the body and triggers the parasympathetic nervous system from where new creative initiatives can arise effortlessly.

  1. Creative Activity

Creative activities, the kind that seem to make time stand still, will benefit you greatly. When these are aligned with your unique gifts and talents, they can be very meaningful. Also, be creative just for the fun of it. It opens you up to your untapped potential.

  1. Fun!

Your Unconscious Mind is a fun-loving, childlike, imaginative mind and really wants to laugh and enjoy itself. When we experience stress for too long, the first thing that goes is the fun, and life becomes too serious. That’s no fun! Laughter is great medicine – this we know. Less well known is that lightheartedness, as a wiser path to wholeness and mental balance, keeps you flowing with life. This doesn’t mean you don’t care, however it does replace worry with a playful, light, detached approach to the events of life.

  1. Expanded Awareness

When we focus on one thing, we develop tunnel-vision. Instead, practice expanding your field of awareness by activating your peripheral vision. Once you are mindful of the peripheral area of your vision, also include, sounds, smells and feelings into the broadened field of your awareness. Also called self-hypnosis, Expanded Awareness is a great relaxation tool. You can listen to my recording: Meditation: Expanded Awareness by activating Peripheral Vision, to develop this useful technique that connects you with your creative mind.

Want to learn more?

Would you like to experience hypnosis and become  a practitioner of hypnosis? Next weekend we are running a Hypnotherapy Practitioners Course – a fully accredited course that equips you to begin to practice hypnosis. Many come to experience the bliss of complete relaxation – a state in which we can access the Unconscious Mind easily and give it useful positive suggestions with lasting effect. Its a small group and its next weekend! So book soon to ensure your space: email Narina at narina@brightfuturenow.co.uk Full details are on the Events Calendar.

What else creates that relaxed healing state?

Meditation

Like hypnosis, meditation is a great way to make inner journeys, clear the clutter from your mind and effect your desired change. Meditation is a great self-help tool for stress and for boosting mental and physical health. Next month we are starting our Seven Week Meditation Course. Entitled ‘7 Key Steps on the Path to Healing and Enlightenment’, we take a peek into the subtle realms, share ancient wisdom and consult ground-breaking science, enabling you to gain in insight and evolve on your path. You will deepen in clarity and transform as a person. To book and see full details visit the Events Calendar. Would love to see you there!