‘Tis the Season – of Joy, or Is It?

 

As the festive season kicks in there is much to celebrate and enjoy. Christmas is a time of social and family gatherings. Along with the good cheer, it can pose some unique challenges. This is not always a happy time for everyone. How can you make this Christmas a joyful celebration for yourself and your loved ones? 

Be Merry and Bright

Christmas is a great time to get together and celebrate the year and your achievements with colleagues, friends and family alike. There’s so much going on this time of the year. With increased commitments to be ready, be prepared, get the shopping done, see all those people, it’s easy to feel under pressure both financially and socially. All this activity needs to be balanced with just being – enjoying the season. It’s a balancing act. Balancing the needs of others with your own needs. 

Balance Giving with Receiving

The spirit of the season is kindness, giving, generosity and gratitude. Equally, allow yourself to receive. Receiving without saying ‘Ah you shouldn’t have…’. Receiving graciously with just a ‘thank you’, allowing others the pleasure of doing something for you. Balancing the give-and-take in relationships; what’s good for you personally with what’s good for the people you care about, is an essential fine art and you owe it to yourself.

Rest

Nature begins to go into hibernation now, becoming still, resting, recuperating, and so should we. I’m sure, like me, you feel ready for a break. The holiday season is long-awaited and yet it can fly by, with so much on the go. Amidst the shopping and social events, build in some quality personal hibernation time. Rest, reflect, be still – balance all that “busyness” with much needed self-nurturing. Clearing and resetting the mind now will be a valuable investment in your own well-being.

Stay Healthy

Maintain a healthy balance between festive celebration and eating for good health and a healthy immune system. Get out often for a breath of fresh air and movement, creating your own winter well-being experience.

Maintain Good Relationships 

Christmas time often brings extended families under one roof, all expressing their varied opinions and ideas. This can create tension and stress. Have you ever wondered why this can be so challenging and when they go you start missing them again? It’s because the dynamics change radically when people live under the same roof and they reflect your shadow-self back to you once too often. When in company, we are always looking in a mirror. We can only change ourselves – we cannot change others. When you change your perceptions, people change, and your experiences begin to change too. Everyone around you is your teacher – helping you to learn something about yourself. That’s how you grow and evolve. Your greatest teachers are those testing people around you. We learn more about ourselves when our buttons are pushed. 

Stay Emotionally Healthy

It’s always good to say how you feel and best to say it straight away. Biting your tongue and speaking days later is least effective because people only remember their own version. Besides, keeping your emotions in, makes you uncomfortable, unsettled and withdrawn. When you express your feelings, people get to know you better and they have a chance to see another side. 

Christmas is not always a happy time for everyone. I know many people who have lost loved ones this time of the year and they can feel sadness. Allow yourself and others to talk about those who have gone, bringing them into remembrance. Honouring and expressing all of your emotions is the path of healing. Then you can remember the good times and treasure the precious memories. 

It’s a Time for Joy

Mindfully tune into your feelings, to learn from them and grow in wisdom. Allow yourself to embrace and experience all your emotions and, without wallowing in them, keep moving towards love and joy. Yuletide is a time of peace, joy and celebration. Joy opens the heart and suddenly the world is a better place. This uplifting experience makes Christmas a special time. Make that your mission this season, to create the kind of joy that can take you deep into the new year with happiness and an open heart.

Be Grateful – Count your Blessings

Joy is feeling happy for no reason at all. What if you can’t feel joy? There is nothing more magical than a practice of gratitude to bring instant upliftment to the spirit. Reflect firstly, on a person you are grateful for, secondly, an event you are grateful for, thirdly, something about yourself you are grateful for. Listen to a Gratitude Meditation to make it easier for you. In your meditation, focus on the feeling of gratitude rather than the story. 

Be at Peace

It’s best for your own well-being to be at peace with everyone in your life. You don’t have to necessarily like everyone, and there will certainly be people you won’t want to spend a lot of time with and that’s alright. As long as you are at peace in your own heart for your own sake. Sometimes we have to practice forgiveness to be at peace. There is nothing more freeing than forgiveness as it restores your vital energy too. This release can feel like a huge weight lifting as you put the past behind you peacefully. Nothing facilitates this better than the practice of Ho’oponopono, the Hawaiian forgiveness ritual. It means ‘to put things right, to make peace’. Remember, you are essentially doing it for your own well-being and your own peace of mind. 

Set your Goals 

So what will 2019 hold for us? The best way to predict your future is to create it. Create your future with thought-intention. By considering the kind of future you’d like to have, you begin to create it. With the power of your mind and your thoughts, you create your outcomes. Your mind is immensely creative, and the possibilities are infinite. Everything starts with a thought, an idea that we energise through focus. What you focus your mind on is a conscious choice. Often we think ahead with ‘what if type’ of thoughts fearing what might happen. If you focus on what can go wrong, you create more fear. We seem to be good at telling ourselves what we don’t want to happen. That leaves your Unconscious Mind confused about what you do want. Goals and intention give the Unconscious Mind a positive focus and direct the mind towards what you do want. Use the joyful uplifting season of Yuletide to cast your mind and thoughts ahead with a positive focus towards what you would like. This way you begin to create a magical 2019 ahead of you. Write your goals and intentions down now, to make your future more meaningful and purposeful. Next year this time you can look back and reflect on them, celebrating your achievements with joy again. 

Thank You! 

In the true spirit of Christmas, I thank you all for you support throughout the year. It’s been an amazing year. I’m truly grateful for everyone making my work a joyous experience. Together we laid the foundation for next year. I’m particularly excited to celebrate the publishing of a new book “Foundations of Mastery” with you in January 2019. Until then, I wish you and your loved ones a blessed Christmas – make it a joyous celebration of all that you are.

Resources

In the news this week: BBC News: Christmas is coming: Tips to make it stress-free

Healthy Eating: That Girl Cooks Healthy and The Healthline: Nutrition 

Emotional Health: 8 Simple Ways to Improve Your Mood in 5 Minutes or Less

Movement: 5 Benefits of Moving Your Body 

Meditations: Guided Meditations for Self-Transformation

Events: Join one of our Meditation Courses – book now!

Christmas Gifts Ideas: Products.

Self-mastery Through Changing Perceptions

Meditation is a great self-healing tool. We have already explored the use of Ho’oponopono, the Huna forgiveness ritual for healing relationships and making peace. Recently, on the Self-Mastery Advanced Meditation Course, we used this same powerful forgiveness meditation in more advanced ways – to change perceptions, clear the slate and recreate your world; your holographic universe afresh.

Possibly one of the most magical healing meditations, Ho’oponopono wipes the slate clean. If you’ve had a challenging experience in any of your relationships, Ho’oponopono facilitates forgiveness and allows you to change existing perceptions. Whatever your perception of another person may be, it’s just a perception. Equally, how others perceive you, is only a perception. Perceptions aren’t truths, they are simply made up. If you have done something to offend others (something that happens to all of us – mostly unintentionally), then the Ho’oponopono forgiveness process is the way to clear the air and put things right. 

Healing Perceptions of Money, Business or your Home

Our relationships go beyond people. You can use Ho’oponopono to recreate your relationship e.g. with money, your business and your house. If your experience of money is limited rather than abundant, investigate your beliefs around money; whether you believe you deserve abundance. What’s your relationship with your business, job or career? How would it be different if you could change your perception of it; if you believed in it; if you were grateful for it? How do you feel about your home? Even if you desire a change, it will come your way easier from a basis of love and appreciation. Equally, if you’re trying to sell your house and you are too attached to it, potential buyers won’t get a feel for it. Sometimes we are attached to places where we have lived or visited and we still have one foot in that place. As a result, we could feel scattered or ‘all over the place’. This stops us from moving on, feeling rooted and being truly present. Letting go energetically allows you to feel whole again; brings movement and new opportunities into your life.

Self-forgiveness 

Do you have past experiences that continue to bring up feelings of guilt or embarrassment? If so, these events are still unresolved in the mind and are keeping you attached to the past. No one is perfect or free from so called ‘mistakes’ (better labelled as growth experiences). Is it time to clear the self-criticism, free yourself and bring love and compassion to your life? 

Everything happens for a reason, always. Every experience in your life was designed to shape you and reform you – Aristotle 

The Psychology of Perceptions and Projections

Carl Jung, the Psychologist, said that we project our deep-seated unconscious issues out onto people around us. We then think they are the problem, because we couldn’t see it in ourselves. What you see in others is who you are yourself (what you like and don’t like). In the holographic model of the universe, there is no one outside of you, that isn’t you. Taking responsibility for our own perceptions takes self-empowerment and personal transformation to a whole new level of mastery. When we take charge of our perceptions we can change it anytime, e.g. from ‘People will think I’m crazy’ to ‘People will find this inspiring’. When we change our perceptions (the slide in the hologram), everything and everyone around us change, and quite magically, we project out new characters and experiences in our universe.

 Perceptions are Projected 

  • We grow and evolve through relationships
  • Our views of others is only a perception
  • We tend to project our perceptions onto others
  • What you see in others is who you are yourself 
  • We are always looking in a mirror
  • You are in charge of your perceptions and can challenge and change them
  • We can only change ourselves – we cannot change others
  • When you change your perceptions, people change, and your experiences too
  • Everyone around you is your teacher – helping you to learn something about yourself – especially those testing ones. That’s how you grow and evolve. 

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is essential for your health. Research has shown how anger, resentment and hostility physically impacts on the heart as it can cause hardening arteries and heart attacks (Gill Edwards 2010).

True healing often involves deep forgiveness or a shift in consciousness; changing your perceptions of those testing people in your life, and those who caused you hurt. This is based on a recognition that, from a higher perspective, everything happens for learning and growth. Hypnotherapist Robert Schwartz, describes these interactions from a pre-life planning perspective. He describes how soul groups co-plan and agree life events. How we pre-plan our growth experiences and it may include many individual agreements to meet and work with certain people in certain places at certain times. For you to learn the growth lesson you wanted to, others agreed to act out certain roles (Robert Schwartz 2012). Some of these roles may feel testing but ultimately they are acts of love as it helps you to grow and evolve. Seeing it like this, certainly makes forgiveness easier.

Working with your perceptions is the advance work of self-mastery and forgiveness is your most powerful practice. Forgiveness retrieves your soul and liberates you from the past. All forgiveness is a gift of healing and renewal for yourself. 

Resources
Healing Meditation: Ho’oponopono – Cutting Connection – use this powerful healing meditation creatively. Adapt it to your needs. Heal yourself, your relationship with money, your business, your home. Retrieve your energy from past experiences and places. Change limiting beliefs and negative perceptions. Be at peace with everyone in your universe, for your own sake.
Time Line Therapy™
Sometimes to heal, it’s best to get to the root cause of thing. Time Line Therapy™ is highly effective in getting to the root cause. Once we’ve found the root cause, deep-seated hurt and resentment can release for good.
The book Lifting the Veils of Illusion, captures our growth process in 7 Key Steps. Informative and transformational, it contains the healing techniques applied in therapy, coaching and courses. Ultimately transformation takes us out of darkness into the light; out of ignorance into understanding; out of the ego and its struggles into the fulfilment of your true higher self.
Ongoing Personal and Spiritual Development
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