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One of my key life lessons certainly is finding balance. As I work and interact with people, it becomes progressively clearer that more and more people feel over-stretched and stressed with ever-increasing work pressure and demands on their time. Their lives feel out of balance. They too want to find balance and keep hoping that something will change. What do we mean by finding balance? Some may think of ‘the balancing act to get things done’, or the ‘balancing act of spinning all those plates’ or ‘work-life balance’ or ‘all in good balance’. However, it’s more than that. So how do we really find balance and why is it important?
Here I share 7 key practices to find the balance point; the point of liberation and transformation into a new way of being, that I hope will inspire you to bring more balance into your own life.
7 Key Practices to Restoring Balance
1. Doing with Being
The classic Yin Yang balance; balancing action, activity and business with rest, recuperation, sleep and nurturing. This is where we often get things out of balance, work pressure and family responsibilities being the main culprits. All this doing need to be balanced with just being – enjoying life. Meditation as a regular practice can be a trusted friend here. Meditation is a treat, not a chore – a practice of non-doing, of un-doing, of just being – a practice aimed at restoring balance.
2. Giving with Receiving
Why does it seem easier to give than to receive? Could you allow yourself to receive? Receiving without an ‘Ah you shouldn’t have’. Receiving graciously with just a ‘Thank you’, allowing others the pleasure to do something for you. Balancing the give-and-take in relationships, between what’s good for us personally and what’s good for the needs of those people we care about is an essential fine art and you owe it to yourself.
3. Others with Self
Many of us have been raised with the idea to put other people first. It’s a misconception that is misunderstood and mispracticed. When you feel duty-bound to do more for others, or want to please others at the expense of yourself, you can create energetic imbalances which can leave you feeling resentful and drained. No one is more important than anyone else. We are all equal in value. Caroline Myss, in her discussion of healthy self-esteem, refers to two spiritual laws: ‘honouring one another’ and ‘honour oneself’. These two laws are equal in importance and we are to balance how we practice and apply them. Through the practice of balance, we assert healthy boundaries.
4. The Past and Future with the Present Moment
We create anxiety and stress through fear-based thoughts – regretting past events and thinking too far ahead, anticipating undesired outcomes. When we come into the present moment, release takes place. Here nothing needs to be achieved or controlled. The present moment is completely free from stress. Here we can open up to the joy of life. In the present, you can just be and create.
5. Planning with Flowing
Planning serves its purpose. It’s good to plan your day and scan your week ahead. Set your intentions and then let go of the importance of it. It’s a strange paradox, yet it keeps any self-investment out of it. Set your aim and then flow with the river of life. As much as we may want to pursue our own agendas, and sometimes it’s very important to do so, equally if we stay mindful of the bigger picture this can help us to find good balance. Flowing opens us up to our inner guidance and life’s surprising synchronicity through which things fall in place in magical ways.
6. Head with Heart
Practically all inner conflict is a conflict between the head and heart; being in two minds about what to do and what’s important to us. Too often we overthink things whilst dismissing that wise intuitive inner voice only to regret it later. Sounds familiar doesn’t it? So the ultimate balancing act is balancing the logical thinking head with the intuitive heart; the analytical conscious mind with the creative emotional unconscious mind; the controlling ego self with the comfortable and ever-expansive true self. This integration brings the mind into oneness, wholeness and peace. Then the mind can work together in harmony and balance. This is true healing; the healing that brings transformation and enlightenment.
7. Heaven with Earth
There are 7 main energy centres or Chakras in the body, each has its unique nature and qualities. The bottom three Chakras are more Yin, feminine and earthly and are about our physical and emotional health. The top three Chakras are more Yang, masculine and heavenly; being about the mind, the higher mind and our spirit. The heart Chakra is the midway point, the natural place of balance and harmony. The heart connects and unites heaven and earth in the body. The heart is the gateway. When we slip into this balance-point and reside more in the heart, a gateway opens; a gateway to a more magical life where things flow and work out miraculously and you are liberated to evolve more into your expansive, magnificent and infinitely creative true self.